Broody 😩

Hey I took at at home role I do around my little girl that allowed me an extra income! It gave me another year off maternity!! It’s so flexible happy to share if you think it might help 🥰🥰❤️

@Tamara doing what? If it’s any kind of MLM it’s not something that interests me

The "you'll make it work" is why we're having number three. I said to my OH i would forever regret not trying for one more. Money is tight, easier now with the funding, but we can make it work.

No it’s not selling products or anything like that! It’s just by helping others save on their essential services 🥰

@Kirsty but how do you make it work when you’re only just making ends meet with one? I really do wish we could make it work

We’re having our second I’m taking a year off for maternity leave even though I know I can’t afford it but we will make it work it might mean taking a loan out and spend a year or two paying it back. We’ve also got our wedding next year 😕 we can defo cut costs in some areas I will be eating very little and no takeaways to make sure I fit into my dress 😅 Its very handy that we’ve literally got everything still from my son so we won’t need to buy baby much at all. I just know a few years of being tight and cautious will be absolutely worth it. I can’t wait for my son to have a sibling. But no more after this one! X

🤷🏻‍♀️ i dont know, you just do. There are months where it is so hard, and i feel overwhelmed, and upset and angry, but its not something i am willing to compromise on. I get one shot, one time to have my children. Im 32, i cant put it off, if i want a family, i have to do it now. So here we are. We'll make it work.... Because what choice do you have? Not working isn't an option.

@Kirsty this is another issue for me too. I’m 33 and solo parent mon-Fri as my husband works away. So many pros and cons 😩😭

I had my second baby in July and while we’re ok financially at the moment because I’m still on full pay, I’m not sure how it will be when I’m on statutory pay, plus it’s going to be expensive putting two kids in nursery. My second was born three days before I turned 40 though so I definitely didn’t have time to wait. If you’re in your early 30s I would say you’ve still got a bit of time on your side but if you want to extend your family now then you can make it work.

You know what it makes me feel relieved to see posts like this because I've kept going over and over in my head about a second child and I'm in same boat with finances. I'm 33 and I only have my 2 year old so I need to not leave it too long as I don't want a big age gap. We was gonna start trying this month but we have put it on hold as our boy is hypermobile and still doesn't walk independently on his own..and as awful as this sounds I don't think I could cope being pregnant and still having to carry him about.

Same! I just look at my toddler sometimes playing so nicely with her dolls and think she’d make such a brilliant big sister. I was an only child and always longed for a sibling my own age too. My partner is mostly against having another, but I know I’ll regret not having another!

I’m going to have the conversation with my husband! And see what he thinks/says! I really do think I would regret not having another and it’s been heavy on mind for a while now. Thank you ladies for you input! 🩷

@Sophie I’ve been really thinking about it a lot today. My thinking is that if we were to start trying beginning of next year, by the time baby would be here, we would be entitled to 30 hours free childcare so wouldn’t have that cost involved. I don’t know if I’m just clutching at straws because I really do want another one but I think that could possibly work!

That's what I'm kinda holing out for too the free 30 hours. I honestly can't wait for my little boy to be a big brother and to hopefully get that feeling of our family being complete. If money wasn't an issue I'd have more than 2 maybe 😅 but to be able to give my little family the best I need to keep to what we can realistically afford