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I feel like my mom's the same. She is also about 3/4 hours away but it's always me messaging her photos or video calling. I had a difficult and traumatic pregnancy and while on bedrest she never came to visit. And when I gave birth to the boys she never came even though we lost one of our twin boys a week before I went into premature labour so if there's ever a time you really need your mom it was then. My partner even offered to pay for train tickets and a hotel in central London so she could come but instead said no it's fine because they're already booked to come see us in January 🙄 I haven't told her how I feel as nothing will change but it's something that still upsets me to this day whenever I think about it..
I’m so sorry to hear of your experiences 😔 that is so upsetting. @Megan my heart goes out to you. I never want my baby to feel this unsupported, so as hurtful as it is, I’m using it all as a lesson of how not to parent x
Very similar scenario Never was interested during my pregnancy, booked a holiday over my due date, didn't meet grandchild until 6 weeks old, first grandchild ill add, whenever I'm struggling and ask for advice I don't get a lot back or I get is hope it's better tomorrow etc etc. When she has seen my daughter she isn't really hands on. I'm really surprised to be honest I thought she would be more doting but she self professes that her Mum wasn't maternal and it made her that way but I can't really remember a time as a child that she wasn't maternal. Don't get me wrong I write these disappointing things, but she has had her moments where she has been great.
I say that to my partner all the time, all examples on how I'll be the absolute opposite for my son x
My sons grandparents (on both sides) live less than half an hour away and only see him once every 3-4 weeks. There's no such thing as a village any more! Me and my husband have just accepted it now and we don't make as much effort for them to see him. I won't force people to be in my sons life, I'd rather him be surrounded by people that want to be around him x
My mother lives 4 doors up from me and she hardly ever makes an effort to see our baby. She is my first too. The only time she does is if we ask her to watch her for us which is rare. On the other hand she makes all the effort in the world for my brother's kids 🙄 I have just accepted it now. My husband's parents are great though, they ask to have her all the time!
Similar to you, my mum lives about 4 hours away, first grandchild, also didn't check in much at all during pregnancy. Hasn't seen my baby since she was 6 days old 🤷🏼♀️ promises to catch up soon but never does. I just try to act as if it doesn't bother me much even though it hurts sometimes.