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My bf can be very nasty to me. During arguments he can be very overpowering, has the answer for everything and just always has to be right. When it comes to apologising he will do it via a nice gesture like send me money to get my nails done or clean up the house before I get out of bed. I know that’s his way of saying sorry but I want a bit more emotional solace from him. Id love it if he came up to me and gave me a hug and said “babes I was wrong I’m sorry”. I spoke to his mum about this and she said he opened up to her that being the first born he didn’t feel like he was nurtured and a burden was put on him growing up so I may have difficulties getting that side from him. But it’s quite challenging working with someone like that.

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I would suggest talking to him if you haven’t already. It’s not fair on you. I’m also the oldest child and it can feel like it but I feel it made me know how to nurture others better. Sounds more like an excuse. I would say that he needs maybe to go to therapy and talk out his issues if he won’t talk to you. If the arguments become more and over stupid things and he gets nasty you might have to give him a ultimatum cause you don’t deserve to be put down xx

If your love language doesn’t compliment the other and they don’t want to put an effort to speak your love language… they don’t think you’re worth it. Leave.

@Jess I’ve actually decided to stay at my mums for the weekend and told him I would like to have the disussion when I get back. I think therapy would do a world of good and he did actually start but hadn’t been consistent with it which I think is the issue. Thanks girl x

@Nelly Im sorry but I feel like a lot of women on here say “leave” for every single problem anyone has. Me and my partner share a house, a car and a child together. Our lives are integrated in every single way. Whilst what I described is an issue for me I’m a lot more dedicated to my relationship than maybe you are to yours.. I rather work and fix something with someone I’m committed to.

You don’t need to be sorry love. I’m talking based on my experience of accepting excuses of I am this way because xyz, always a excuse not to go to couples therapy. Always winning arguments even when they’re not right. I am happy you are committed to your relationship but to assume you are more dedicated to your relationship than I am is wrong. You have no idea what I have been through with my partner. But hey, assume all you want. I do hope everything gets resolved in your relationship. Being there so often with my partner and for so many years, if I could go back in time and just not be with him, I would.

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