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100% agree, it’s completely unnecessary
I’m glad it’s not just me. I was wondering if I was overreacting!
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I'm going to play devil's advocate here, but I've had a fair few false positives which have been absolutely heartbreaking, so looking at it from my perspective I kind of feel the need to have that reassurance that I'm not seeing things and they're definitely doing what they should be. I think it's really tough for everyone, but maybe it would be more considerate of those posting progression lines to explain their reasoning behind doing so. I've also had a fair few losses and I guess people have it in their mind that progression lines should follow a certain pattern to give better chances of not loosing their little beans. That said, I know it's hard to watch when all you want to see is those 2 lines on your own tests. This whole process is mentally, physically and emotionally draining and it's hard. X
Personally I think it’s encouraging to see other women who have tried for SO long FINALLY conceive. It’s also beautiful to congratulate other people who have faced similar struggles, everyone will have their turn; god willing. Maybe people should learn to regulate their own feelings of jealousy and figure out how to be happy for others struggles coming to an end. That’s just my opinion though x
@Dannielle it’s fine to see ‘is this a positive test’ but anything beyond that should be posted in a different group. It’s not jealousy and nothing to do with god. Some people in this group have been TTC for years. People are allowed to be happy for others at the same time as being sad for themselves…
I’m totally with you on this, and had the exact same thoughts. I’m trying to avoid this app actually, as I can’t bear to see another positive test in a TTC (!!!) group… or at many weeks pregnant asking for pregnancy advice. I honestly don’t care if people don’t answer in the other groups, this still isn’t the right place to talk about pregnancy topics, I’m sorry. I probably sound bitter…happy for anyone getting their positives, especially after they’ve been trying for a long time, but there is a sensitive button too. It would be considerate to use it, so at least people can make a choice whether they want to see a pregnancy announcement or not.
@Becka I get your point, but there is a line eye group, for exactly that purpose. I’ve been posting progression questions here too I think 🤔, or maybe it was the pregnancy group, I can’t remember, but I’ve put it under sensitive, so no one has to see it unless they want to.
@Boglárka see, I didn't know that and may be that others don't too. It's a hard situation to be in all round.
@Boglárka see asking for pregnancy advice in this group is very insensitive I feel and not having posted anything myself I wasn't aware of a sensitive button, it does make sense to use that!
@Becka maybe it’s just all down to people not being aware of it, who knows! Maybe there should be some group rules in place, like in Facebook groups.🫣😄 So it would be clear for everyone what they can and can’t post.
@BeckaI’m pretty sure my comment at the top mentions ‘it’s fine the first time’. Keep asking that reassurance in the Month/year of birth group… don’t think it’s best placed here. @Dannielle ‘own feelings of jealousy..’ now that’s a snap judgement. Not everyone believes in god… it’s not about ‘god willing’. Some people need scientific medical support with fertility.
Like I said that’s just my opinion :) as a poster you asked question I answered
@Dannielle people are entitled to an opinion, not entitled to make snap assumption of somebody’s personality… that’s two different things
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It’s not a snap assumption of anyone’s personality , but that’s your opinion so I’ll let u have it lol
I agree with you @Dannielle and it does have to do with god if u believe in it. As someone who TTC for 8 years and 5 MC before finally conceiving it was always reassuring to see others finally get their baby/rainbow babies. It’s all about perspective and everyone has an equal space on this app if they want to share one positive or multiple if it means they are reassured. No one can judge how someone is dealing with their positive test as a first positive doesn’t always mean a successful conception. I think we just need to mind our own business for sometimes and not get too caught up on what others post when they aren’t trying to be triggering, only sharing their journey which is what this group is about :)
@Josie I had a MC 4 months ago so I disagree. If I ever conceive again I know first hand that if I need pregnancy advice I need to go on the appropriate group, not a TTC group as at that point I’ve already conceived technically
@Areeba I think many of these responses are misunderstanding the post. There’s no issue clarifying a positive test. There’s no jealousy. We are happy for those getting their beautiful babies. The issue lies with asking about scans, pregnancy symptoms etc, these Q’s should be asked on the appropriate groups as it can trigger certain individuals who are battling with conceiving.
@Josie but technically TTC is: Trying to conceive (TTC) is a term commonly used to describe couples or individuals actively attempting to get pregnant. “TTC” often refers to the entire journey involved with achieving pregnancy. I’m not speaking on my behalf as it doesn’t get to me seeing others get pregnant but I know multiple people who find it very triggering. They don’t mind seeing positive tests but get upset seeing progression line posts/scan posts etc.
I don’t get why people are so bothered! Let people be happy, just because you are still struggling doesn’t mean you are allowed to be intolerable of other peoples success. TTC is a journey and a positive pregnancy test / successful pregnancy is a part of that. Be kind , learn to clap for others. Many people on here are pregnant and still nervous about miscarriage occurring again. Doesn’t mean they can’t come to the group , as soon as you conceive there’s no rule to say get out of our group now you’re no longer one of us 💀😂
May I also add - you have signed up for an app with pregnant women/women with kids and you’re complaining about positive tests and baby scans …. Maybe this isn’t the right app for you!
@Dannielle Danielle you ain’t listening …. I said not me, people I know. You’re just making assumptions about people and their feelings. I’m bored now
@Josie I appreciate your explanation unlike other people. I get what you’re saying 100%. Like I said, I personally understand why people share more. I had a missed miscarriage, I understand anxiety, wanting reassurance etc. I have a friend who’s been TTC for 10 years and yeah maybe she shouldn’t be on an app or group like this but also others should disregard her feelings of sadness.
@Ashley in all fairness I didn’t reply to u
100% agree with this!