Self care

Hi mamas, I left my baby’s father and partner of 5 years back in February when my girl was 10 months (absolutely the best decision I could have made for all of us as a family and we are getting on much better now apart). Anyway, ever since I had my Freya I’ve struggled a lot with looking after myself; my mental health went down the drain (I have semi worked on this since the split), I barely showered let alone wash my hair and my self esteem was awful! Ever since I left I’ve been trying to work on this, getting my personal hygiene on track as I have more time for this since living with my parents who are very pro-active with my girl. I’m just looking for tips on how to feel my best, I’ve started looking into skincare and maybe see about getting to a gym but I still just feel awful about myself and my appearance. Obviously in the future I would like to maybe think about moving on and begin dating again but this is a long way off and I want to make sure I am healthy within myself before I do this lol. I just wanted to see if there was anyone else in this position before and how they got out of the rut, I miss having confidence 😂

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I'd say start with a simple skin care regime as it won't take up too much time. Just a basic face wash, toner and moisturiser. Doing your skin care morning and evening just gives you a bit of self care time. Rather than joining the gym maybe start with a walk every morning, something you can do with your little girl if you have noone to watch her. Just getting out into the fresh air and exercising will make you feel better. I like to do a face mask and hair mask once every 2 weeks too. Just makes me feel like I've had a little pamper xx

I feel this way about myself. I need to lose weight badly. But also don't know how to dress anymore. Which is affecting my confidence.

I think most of us can relate to this, little one now takes priority and you lose yourself a bit. Plus your body is just different now, so like you I feel I've lost my style. To echo what others have said, get yourself a simple routine, quick shower and skincare routine to make you feel fresh. I also recommend a walk, getting outside helps, if possible go to a wood or by a river for a walk. Fresh air and nature plus moving your body is always a good way to feel better x

@Jade @Alice @Toni thank you girls, I feel like we’re on the same boat which is nice as much as it sucks so nice to hear your guys suggestions and what you do! We’re all just surviving day by day at this point, not sure when it gets easier 😂 sometimes have time for ourselves, other days not so much! Thanks for taking time to read my post and replying ❤️

@Alice completely same as me! Feel like I’m dressing as your stereotypical mum which wasn’t me before and buying new clothes is so hard cause I defo couldn’t pull off the same clothes as I used to pre-Freya 😂 we will get there one day ❤️

Girlll I got you: New hair cut - book one in and do it! 2 sets of new lounge clothes that fit you well 1 new silky set pyjama set New skin care routine 10 mins in the evening Book your eyebrow appointment in advance and go!! Get your lashes done or nails just once to start you off on how to feel good!! And look good all the time!! Walks, steps, 10 min workout plan if you haven’t got time to go gym Add fruit to your diet! You’ll feel refreshed! Plenty of water and get some vitamins 💕💕💕💕

Get rid of anything that doesn’t make you feel or look nice. I did and the 2/3 lounge sets I wear feel and look so nice at home Buy a really nice smelling shower gel too. And a new perfume!! I wear mine daily regardless even if I am at home Self care is VITAL for us new mamas ❤️❤️

I was in a rut with post natal depression etc and dug myself out!! I got all my confidence back if not more. So you can do this. You got this and girl enjoy the glow up and feeling better stronger and happier then before 🔥🔥 Did it on my own and when I moved back in with parents too as that was my support. Xx

Oh and buy a nice bra!! I got a nice £15 one from Ann summers. Best fit and feels so much better then my sports bras I have been living in since my pregnancy lol

If your not sure where to start, Pinterest will be your best friend ❤️ also a social media break sometimes helps too when your working on you. ❤️

@Shelley omg sorry for such a late reply, I so appreciate all this advice!! Thanks so much for taking so much time to respond, so much to try out and work on☺️☺️ thanks gal ❤️

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