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Honestly speaking he is correct, most women begin to look at the man as worthless once they become stay at home dads. You will be in the masculine role and he will become emasculated. I’ve played both roles before but never having such a great job as urself. Congrats to u!!! No one is going to feel as much as a mommy as you. He is a dad!!!! Wanting to control what he wants to do is unfair. You are the one who will make the sacrifice because welp thats what mommies do. Someone will spend time with your baby because you will have to go back to work. Someone will be your babies favorite for a while and boy is it painful your still mommy and absolutely nothing changes that. Nothing changes your role because you birthed that baby. Mommy guilt will be there and at times you will regret not waiting to have the baby but all end all this life you are living is what you already agreed on coming into this life. You get out to the world be great baby will be great and when you come home ❤️😘
I wrote so much but it all came with love. It’s not a waste of money because your baby is worth every dollar.
You’re completely valid in how you feel and I would recommend trying to work this out through couples therapy. It seems you have expressed your opinion to your husband and it’s pretty selfish of him to not see how he should step up and watch your baby together if his work schedule allows it especially if you’re the bread winner. Raising a child is not all on the mom’s shoulders it’s a shared responsibility for both parents. Besides a mom being the main person to feed from her body if she chooses to do so, parenting should be completely equal in responsibilities. Sometimes one parent does a little more one day and that’s normal but it shouldn’t be on one person all the time if you’re raising a family together.
7 years married here too! 🙋🏻♀️ Not dramatic. He needs to step up and be a dad and not pass baby off when there’s no reason. My advice is you need to sit down with him and hash all this out. The only thing that will change is by talking to him again and really lay down how you feel and what you feel is acceptable. He feels how he feels and you feel how you feel. Maybe there is a middle ground here. Communication is key!