Do I stay, please give me advice I’m struggling mentally..

It kills me to hurt someone it’s just not in me. The guy I’ve been seeing for at least eight months I love him and I care about him. He takes care of me and my two year old and got so close to my child. He cleans up while I get my toddler down just bc he wants to. His family accepts me and my child and I feel safe and content and comftorble with him. He is so understanding and respectful. The thing is.. he has a seasonal job. He says he wants to get something more serious and I helped him with his resume. He wants to start applying soon. My parents aren’t so sure about him bc if this whole job thing. I was raised old school Italian the man supports this that etc. yes I know times are different and hard and you need two incomes and I work and take care of my child. The other thing. I am not affectionate with him.. I don’t know why, I want to be. I miss him when he’s not here but when he’s here I don’t wanna be touched kissed nothing. I’m not sure if it’s an attraction thing soemtimes I’m attracted soemtimes I’m not… wtf do I do… 😔 I feel sooo horrible… I clicked with this guy at a bar recently I didn’t do anything but thiguht about him and I been feeling guilty and feel like if you’re with your person you don’t even wanna entertain other people :/ anyone ever been in this position and left or stayed….

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That's a tough one girl. I WAS going to say that if you have a guy that helps you and your kid JUST because he wants to then you should keep him around because that's hard to find. Assuming that he is motivated to find work because that is important as well. However when you say you aren't sure if you are attracted to him and you are clicking with other people... have you considered at all that you have him for company and help perhaps out of convenience and liking the company around? Because that's not fair to him...

@Melissa I know it’s unfair you’re right and I feel so horrible I haven’t been able to stop crying especially that I’m all he’s got his firends suck a lot of his aunts and uncles have passed away his brothers and him don’t specifically hang for some reason.. I feel so bad it’s been eight months and it was different in the beginning and then I started birth control but I’ve been on bc at least six months so I’ve adjusted by now. Idk I feel so guilty that’s why I’m saying let’s take a break basiclly but idk what to do.. I’m afraid to loose those qualities I do love him I do but idk why im like that when we’re together

That's tough but I would say go with your gut. I would assume it's likely that the feelings will not improve. But you will have to be strong because most likely when he leaves you are going to miss him and want him to come back...

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