Pre-school worry

So my son has started pre-school on 9th sept and just had a conversation with the teacher and they said he is fine with the adults but when anychildren come upto him he gets all upset and anxious so they are going to work on his social skills. i know its a good thing and they will help him and its only been 2weeks but just after reassurance that it does get better 😩. are any other children the same? just makes me sad that he maybe there playing on his own.

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My daughter is the same and she's got selective mutism it's an anxiety disorderd

@Vicky aw really, does she not talk atall when there? he is an only child and never really around children as such unless its a party or something. he is fine at parties, just seems to be struggling here at the moment. x

My son did this when he started nursery in April. He preferred to be by himself but as time went on he got better and he mixed more. Now starting preschool he was super excited to see “his friends” his words not mine. Like you said it’s only been 2 weeks so just has to get used to a new room, new toys, new structure aswell as then new face and personalities etc. the teachers will use games etc to help her mix. I know it’s horrible to think he’s on his own but it does get better for them.

@Heather thankyou this is nice to hear, yeah i guess just takes time doesnt it. he literally started on 9th was in 4days then got chicken pox so was off a week and then we back in again this week. she always says hes had a good day or been hit and miss today. so they going to try and engage him alittle bit now. feel for thwm growing into thw big world x

When I went to parents evening at nursery they told me that my son enjoyed the company of adults and sometimes joined in with other children but only for specific activities rather than general play. However since he started the preschool class he has loved playing with his friends. He has asked for a birthday party so he can invite them all and every day I pick him up he is longer playing on his own he is always talking or playing with others. It’s still early days for your little one but I am sure he will settle in and make friends soon. ❤️

My daughter is very confident normally, but sometimes she gets very shy and won’t say a word, so it can be normal with some children and I don’t think they should be pushed, as they’ll get there in their own time. What we did to make her more comfortable at nursery was to set up some play dates with individual children outside of nursery, so it didn’t feel so overwhelming. We also asked for her key worker to babysit a couple of times, even though I was around, but helped my daughter get to know her and become more comfortable. I hope he’ll settle in soon!

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