Intimacy after baby arrives
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I think society needs to move on from what’s ‘fair for him’. He will be fine. Totally normal for you to not want to be touched/be intimate. Breastfeeding is intense and being the primary care provider of a young child is a lot too! A doctor won’t have a ‘solution’ for this, as there isn’t anything to be solved. It’s normal.
I'm still breastfeeding as well and our 15 month old doesn't sleep well so for us the exhaustion lack of sleep is definitely contributing to reduced sex in our life but we make sure we keep our connection in other ways. It depends what you count as intimacy. My husband and I definitely do not have sex anywhere close to the number of times we did before the birth of our son but we are intimate in other ways . We cuddle, kiss even tease each other often.
Same here. I'm just too tired And partner don't know how to come up to me. ;/ Hmmm. Adrenals get really tired after giving birth. Now the bf. But I respect my temple ✨ and not gonna just have sex just because he wants it.
I have a similar reaction to being touched in intimacy…. It makes me shutter & cringe. I love my husband and am attracted to him, and can’t figure out why most of the time I mentally go to happy place during foreplay/sex. I had my blood checked and everything was ok, I was hoping for an imbalance to explain what was/is happening to me. I feel so bad for my husband bc I WANT to be intimate (like we were before baby who’s now 21 months), but when it comes down to it something in my brain gets weird. I know sleep and fatigue are huge contributors to libido. My dr suggested therapy with someone who specializes in pp depression (I have a few other things that I’m struggling with). I still haven’t gone though, because I believe that I can probably get myself out of this multifaceted funk… I hope so. I feel you. I’m sorry you’re also going through this. Message me if you ever want to chat it!
You should never have sex if you aren't up for it. Your body went through all kinds of changes, especially your hormones. Don't be afraid to talk about it with your husband and share your feelings with each other. You can always talk to your doctor about finding solutions as well. I'm so sorry intimacy has been a struggle. I hope you guys can find a solution that works for both of you! Be patient with yourself and explore your options!