Need to vent

My work have bought me a ticket to conference which will be useful for my career. The tickets are quite expensive and my work have kindly offered me one. However the conference is an all day thing - 8am until 5pm. The only person who can look after my little girl is my MIL who is in her seventies. I felt bad asking but she has agreed to look after my 10 month old for the day. After working out travelling times and allowing for traffic I found out I'd need to leave at around 7am. Now she is stressing out that she won't be able to walk the dog before I turn up. I no longer know if I can attend and just feel a bit frustrated. It's one day, I haven't had a full day away from my daughter yet. I feel bad having to ask but just feel like people aren't very accommodating. I saved up to buy an extra pushchair for MIL. I don't see why she can't walk the dog while pushing it but she won't. I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve with this post. Just wanted to vent I guess 😔 thought it might help. Trying to do anything for myself is such a battle now.

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@Jacqui she doesn't like anyone else walking the dog. She reckons the dog only properly goes to the toilet if she walks her. I know sounds pretty crazy. My husbands family are all just quite awkward and painful at times. She is our only babysitter so just have to go along with it

She just sounds like an awkward old lady who’s trying to make an excuse, which is fine I guess, but why accept?. My 70 year old dad would walk to the ends of the earth on coal with bad back holding my 13kg toddler if I asked. Sounds annoying, I’m sorry you’re in this situation. If she wanted to do it, she would. I don’t think she should have accepted with the sensitive dog issue. I hope you find a resolution x

What about enrolling her in daycare for the day. They normally charge $75 and they’re usually open from 6:30am-6:30pm. That would give you a lot of time with travel.

Show up at 6:30 let her walk the dog and you settle your daughter in then leave at 7.

A whole day of looking after 10mo baby is a lot for a 70+yo. Get a sitter that will come over for just an hour or two while your mom is there to give her some relief. It doesn't have to be someone you particularly know or trust because your mom will be there to watch and direct them. They can take the dog and baby out to walk together. You can use care.com or a similar service. If your mom would prefer to find someone (since it sounds like it's at her house) let her know you'll pay. Maybe she knows a neighbor or neighborhood kid that would be up for the job.

That's a long day for someone in their 70s, I'd even struggle to look after someone else's baby for that amount of time

70 yo???? That's quite old to leave such a small baby with. Why would you think she can do both ...walk the dog and push the baby.... again she's old. Can she even manafe to lift the baby and etc ?? Be considerate. So if you insist to leave bub with her then YOU have to accommodate her. I never even thought about these things till my very fit mum said that it was really taxing to push the stroller with the baby in it.

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