Need advice
Have a 14 month old with my partner of nearly 3 years. We’ve spoken about marriage recently not every day I mentioned it in passing conversation and it went from there (we aren’t engaged either) but he is shutting everything about it down. He thinks that having a child together is enough commitment and he no longer thinks of marrying me in the future and says what would even be the point of proposing to me. I know marriage isn’t a massive thing but I’m a bit set back and a tiny bit heartbroken with his comments.
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I would either have a heart to heart with him about it. Or propose to him myself. Or maybe even both.
Whether or not marriage is a massive thing, it seems to be something important to you that you want in the long run. So he doesn’t get to just disregard that just cause it isn’t important to him. Don’t just settle if it’s something you want cause you’ll just come to resent him for it in the future. Tell him directly that marriage is something you want. If he truly loves you, he will propose. Like you said, having a child together is an even bigger commitment than marriage, so why not get married? What’s the hold up? Unless it’s because he wants to keep his options open and don’t really wanna commit to you….