am i horrible?

You are absolutely not horrible. Pregnancy is so hard and can be so so unpleasant. You don't really hear that a lot. Sure, it's magical and beautiful but it's also awful. There's vomiting and heartburn and pain and discomfort, hemorrhoids, hair loss, and all sorts of unpleasant things nobody warns you about. Your body is going through so much. You're not a bad person for not feeling glamorous and glowing. Not everyone enjoys pregnancy and that's okay. I hope everything goes well with your little one. Pregnancy is hard and it's also so scary. I really wish you and baby the best 💕

I don’t understand how this would make you horrible. Most they’ll make you do is be induced early or have a c section Oct 10 is 2 weeks away I wouldn’t worry about a still born this late

@Janay my man's mom and family keep telling me that i'm "overreacting" and that because of the fact i've been in excruciating pain since around 11 weeks that i'm being horrible for not wanting to have another baby. i was told by his god mother that i'm not a real woman because of the fact that i've had multiple complications, i had 4 miscarriages before this baby and now have to have our baby early.. it gets to my head

@Wren thank you so much 😭🫶🏼

Your man’s mom can have more kids herself then she’s weird to be worried so much about what you’re doing with your own coochie. Hopefully you or your man is defending you instead of just letting them say this stuff to you

@Janay i have a hard time sticking up for myself, but he definitely does. idk why it gets to me so much, it just really does. he's told her she's not allowed in our house or around me anymore but she does as she pleases and will come over while he's at work, or out with his friends. i've only said something once and she got all defensive and then amped up her words which made me cry. i have some trauma i'm still not over and i'm working on so it just gets hard listening to all of this knowing it's hard to stick up for myself, i feel useless

You can’t be a mother and not know how to stick up for yourself. What if your kid needs you and you don’t know how to stick up for them or yourself? That can definitely be trouble for your child. I would recommend therapy after the baby is born my mom would never stick up for me and I always feel unloved by her i would hate for you kid to go through the same thing. But as for your baby they’re almost here I wouldn’t stress it and focus on you just you and them not anyone on the outside. If people think you’re a horrible mom they can have kids themselves do it

@Janay i'm so sorry that happened to you, i'll definitely try finally going to therapy, i want to be a good mom and be there for my baby. i really appreciate you telling me this 🫶🏼

As one of my friends told me, getting pregnant is one of the worst health decisions women make for themselves. It’s worth it, but it’s so hard physically

Pregnancy is so hard on women's body its not funny and i feel Like society brushes over that 😒 It can be deadly for both mom and baby. I nearly lost my life with my first baby (crazy i am going threw it again but that is my choice). But by NO means are you horrible for choosing not to have another baby. You get one life and if you feel its is best for you and your soon to be baby than thats whats best. To HELL what anyone else says. Its your life, your health, your body! Not theirs!!!! His family is toxic and if she tries to come around when he isn't there than don't let her in. You guys don't need that negativity. And if she bangs on the door and doesn't leave call the police and file harassment.