Advice

Why couldn’t he make the bottle ? Why couldn’t he try to soothe her whiles you made her bottle? You was not in the wrong he could clearly see that you was getting abit stress, he could of done a lot of things to help you and to calm baby down whiles bottle was cooling down , us mums get stressed and it’s completely normal maybe try tell him you need help when ur struggling to make bottle fast enough and struggling to soothe baby at same time you can’t be in two places at once , I would of told him he can feed the baby if he feels that way try being a mum for a day these men wouldn’t last one hour doing everything a mum has todo in 1 day and during the night and then they would understand why we’re so stressed and tired , they just need to understand more ….

@Heather Kelly this is what bothers me, I felt like he did nothing but watch me get stressed and then react when I got upset, he made me feel like i hurt her or I was going to if he gave her me back, I feel so low within myself and done nothing but apologise to my baby girl! I don’t think they see the stress or the fact that we’re dealing with hormones and emotions beside the stress of trying to do everything, I never wanted to get upset but it gets tough x

You know you would never ur baby !! He shouldn’t leave it to the point of you getting upset he could see you was trying todo 2 things at once and he could of took over one of the things to help you or take baby up to bed , cuddle , read book, brush teeth , put one of her favourite shows on whiles you dealt with the bottle there’s slot of things they can do to help us but don’t 🤔 your doing amazing mamma maybe try have a chat with him n tell him how u feel n that you need help when something like that happens again n not be made to feel like you’ve done something wrong you could of spun it round on him n made him feel bad for watching you get to that point of being stressed but your the bigger person and he needs to respect that your doing ur best but need help every now n then xx

You are absolutely NOT in the wrong!! He waited until last minute to take any “initiative” and should have stepped in before it became a problem. You are human too and it’s stressful trying to care for a baby alone. And he is totally wrong for denying you your baby while villainizing you. While my husband has never refused to hand my daughter back to me we have been in this same situation and I had to sit him down and tell him what was wrong with that. Try speaking to him once it passes. There’s no reason you should be single parenting with him around.

Nothing is more frustrating than you being overstimulated trying to calm an overstimulated baby while your partner goes on without a care in the world.

@Michelle Thankyou so much, I am going to speak to him today to see why he worked against me last night when he should have been working with me, I’ve never felt so broken about how somebody has made me feel! It’s hard like I say because he only decided to take her once I got upset and frustrated to almost make out like I was going to hurt her!