Postpartum is hard on mental health 😢

Anyone else finding postpartum hard mentally? Some days I feel like jumping off a cliff but then remember I have my LO and he needs me. My husband is not emotionally supportive either so that doesn’t help. He’s the most amazing guy and dad but lacks that. I feel alone, my entire pregnancy all I had was opinions left right and centre on how to parent and our baby wasn’t even here yet Since having him he’s now 5 months old, I still get told from my mum and my MIL things I should be doing bla bla. I’m tired of having to constantly tell the grandparents of our child my expectations, not to send photos of our baby boy to random people or their friends without asking! How hard is it! I’m tired of it. I’m tired of the constant crap coming from everyone else around me. I want to take my baby and run off to a remote island somewhere That’s how I feel. Anyone else in the same boat or understand? 😞 xxx

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You're definitely not alone girl.. Sending you lots of love 💖

Sending hugs. You are a very patient person. I ruined my relationship with my mum because I cannot tolerate her nagging. Criticism and unsolicited advice. I let her visit because my son deserves to know her but I don't tell her anything about him, how he is, how he sleeps. His medical appointments. Nothing. Because if I give her a drop of info she twists it into something being somehow my fault that I'm doing something wrong and need to listen to her advice which will apparently cure everything though really is just hot air. It was tough setting the boundaries but I feel so much better now. I used to be close to her and I missed that but I am no longer the old me that needed my mum. I'm so much better without her advice. My MIL knows much better than to offer advice. My partner updates her on stuff and I don't have to hear about it. I'm sorry about the emotionally unsupportive husband. I have a partner like that too and it's really hard. I try to get him to understand I need love and affection

Sometimes there is improvements e.g with physical affection which is better than nothing. He takes it personally when I'm upset which is unhelpful but essentially it's his issue not mine. It helps me to find a friend to confide in. One whose also been through PPD is best! You got this. It will get better. You don't need a remote island. Pregnancy opinions was wild. If I'm pregnant again I will refuse to see anyone or tell them "it's not my first so I'm not accepting advice as I know what I'm doing".

Please talk to your doctor. You’re not alone.

@Alex ditto! When I’m next pregnant not telling a soul!! Sorry you’re going through it too! It’s hard nobody understands the hormones and everything but us. You’d think other women would who have been mums but nope! X

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