Does my baby dislike me?
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Ive been told by my midwife that baby tends to cry more with mum especially if breastfeeding as you smell of food - our 2 week old will scream his head off in my arms but as soon as dad takes him he’s out like a light 😅
It is really hard not to take it personally, but it will not last. At one month old, your baby still sees you as part of each other. Babies don’t realise that they exist separate from their mother until much later. She spent nine months inside you and so far only one outside! As far as your daughter is concerned, you are one entity. That goes beyond love. I know it is so hard not to take personally, I went through very similar feelings, but you really are her entire world and how much she loves you will become apparent as she gets older. You are doing an amazing job ♥️
If you’re breastfeeding she will smell your milk and that can affect how she’ll settle on you, when my baby was newborn she would only fall asleep feeding on me but would settle through rocking with her dad or just cuddle. You’ve been likely doing the night shifts and looking after her all day, it’s probably easier for him to come home as he hasn’t had to do it all day he will naturally be calmer and less overstimulated it doesn’t mean you’re doing a bad job at all. They can sense when we’re tense and stressed and that can affect how they settle sometimes, men also tend to be broader so it’s comfier for them to settle on their chests. Second what Rhiannon said she won’t recognise you’re not the same person yet either. It will come, just wait for the first cheeky grin and little laugh. You’re doing a brilliant job 💙
Yes, I think both my kids settled better with other people that don’t smell of milk.
I felt the same. Baby wouldn't calm or nothing with me I gave it some time and when I felt overwhelmed that's when I would have her dad take back over. It got better at around 2 months. For some reason he was able to understand her cues so if it's the same with yours I would say just work side by side with him so you can learn also and don't take no offense to it. Easier said than done.