My own mom. So sick of it

Anyone else's having deep emotional issues with your mom since having baby? I just tried to have a talk with my mom because I have to constantly fight my way to parent with her. She doesn't say how I should do things BUT she will constantly tell me when I share my way to do it "ME when you were little, I just couldn't blablabla". She makes all about her and justify shit she was doing. She had the tipical spank/treat/violent way to parent and since I have my baby I resent her so much because I ve realised how I never felt really loved by her. Also she was using name on me. Like "brat" and other stuff I can't translate from my language. I ve realised how much this affected me as an adult. Today I had a talk with her when I was telling her how I felt about these things and now that I have a baby I just feel she is totally unavailable for me or my baby and explain to her how I feel about the justification she is constantly doing. During this talk - she told me. Now I have a great relationship with your sister. But clearly not with you (she used to have an awful relationship with my sis when her babies were little). She used our good relationship to hurt her for years and she is trying to do the same to me now - she told me that if I feel not confortable with our relationship we can just stop seeing each other. When I confronted her about that avoiding comment, she told me that this is not what she said. - she constantly complain about her relationship because her partner of 20 years never apologize to her. (Like yeaaaaaah you are not better). I feel she was being so manipulative and victimizing herself... I guess just a vent. Anybody else having this kind of situation? I know it's not MIL issue but I didn't know where to post this. Thanks for reading.