Husband is causing me stress

My husband has an unhealthy relationship with his mum. He is south Asian and his mum had a very different cultural perspective of her role as a grandmother. My husband wants his mum to be a primary carer but she is not physically or emotionally capable of doing this. Whenever I speak about boundaries with him he says ‘I don’t need boundaries with with my mum’. His mum is odd because she’s not directly difficult but does thing slyly. I’m not comfortable with her walking away from me taking my baby but she keeps doing this. If I say anything my husband says ‘she’s not running away’ but my heart starts racing. My thoughts and feelings don’t matter and I honestly didn’t think this would happen. I am a strong woman but they are breaking me after having my baby. I feel like they are going to take him an away from me not literally but it’s a fear.

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Do you live with her?

No, but we are not very far

Just don't see her often or at all.

At the end of the day you are the mother & you need to stand on business about what you want & how you feel when it comes to you and your child 💯. Husband or not he still needs to respect you & so does his mother.

Are you not part of that culture? Because If he grew up with her.. he's set in his ways as an adult. Guys are clueless and have no idea how emotionally stressful it is, how sensitive a woman is..repeat it over and over and over again.. the pregnancy and birth are big huge events that take atoll on your body and you.. if you have a good relationship with her or she speak English. It's his and her job to make you feel comfortable.. what upside down nonsense.. she's not going run away... the husband seems to think old ppl can help if willing and walking. We don't know if she healthy old or just barely there old .... try tell him, cause.. we don't know aa lot info Especially how long you known him or his mum for and how you have good relationships

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