If she’s not gonna be toxic to my baby then I cannot come in between their relationship I can only distance myself from her to keep my peace
Take stand for yourself and your baby.
My husband has not even told his mother we are pregnant. She is a monster in law too. She refused to go to our wedding(small backyard in Jan) then didn’t go to his BMT graduation or tech school(military) we got pregnant in May and close family knows and no one has told her bc she just ruins everything and I don’t need the added stress. So pretty much do what is best for your family. You and your husband should be on the same team even thought it is hard to do
Absolutely NOT, your job is to protect your child so you do so to the best of your ability. If changes are made over the years by the MIL than reevaluate but as of now I’d keep it moving.