Kids at school

Is he just not wanting to do his work? I would say try to have someone with him that can be there while he’s doing his work maybe he just needs one on one with his teacher? Try rewarding him when he does his work at home!

@Mollie we did try. And we do that the teacher miss of remind him if he does his work mommy will reward him at home and he just sits there quietly. He just stops working. He’s not disrespectful. He doesn’t talk. He just it’s like a silent treatment kind of. He just sits there and don’t do his work

He’s probably just frustrated with the work. I’m a former prek teacher and I used to motivate my students who were like this by having them complete one or two problems not the whole page then the next week 3 and so forth. Sometimes a whole page is overwhelming

@Denise that’s what we thought at first they were just frustrated and he probably is but we get some things similar at home and he does a whole page with no problem

Hmm so is it a defiance issue? I’ve worked with a lot of defiant kids and they just have to learn that there are consequences if they don’t follow rules. It usually takes a few weeks but they just have to learn that they won’t get their way unfortunately.

Or it could be that he’s overwhelmed by all of the students and can’t focus 🤔

@Denise do you know what reading it again and thinking about it? You’re probably right I’m gonna see what we can do with the teacher and see if we can find something or I can work with him at home more. I just don’t want him to get in trouble every single dayand not like school because of it so if you have any tips, please let me know. Thank you so much.

Yeah I would just reinforce it at home because you don’t want it to be an ongoing problem every year. Unfortunately they do have complete work and follow rules even if they are having a bad day so it’s best to get to the root of the problem because it becomes a habit. But I would talk to his teacher and tell her you’re working with him on it at home as well but if he’s in prek or kinder the classrooms can be super noisy and it’s hard for them to focus

@Denise OK, I will work with him at home. Maybe let him do the work while his sister is around so he can get used to noisy stuff in class. I’ll try to see what we can do to help him and specially him, knowing that he has consequences if not listening and not doing his work. But thank you so much. This helped me feel a little better.

Can you take a day to maybe pop in the classroom to observe for yourself? I agree with the other comments about the possibility of it being too loud for him. Maybe get with the pediatrician as well. I was having a similar problem with my son and his pediatrician mentioned love and logic look on facebook and amazon for reference but it’s basically rewarding/ discipline techniques. I would wait to reward my son at the end of week and the pediatrician advised me that at that age they need reward the same day Hang in there mama and love on him. It gets better

My daughter was like this at the beginning of the year (she’s in pre-K). What helped her is her teacher has a treasure box in her classroom. If she completes her work and participates, she gets to something for it. At the end of the week if she does what she needs to, I reward her as well. It’s helped tremendously and now she comes home and tells me about her friends and fun day.

@Meme OK I will talk to his pediatrician and see what we can do and I will see what I can do with his teacher and talk about him more.

@Kandida OK yeah I will see what we cando with his teacher. I also know that she will tell him you do your work Mommy will reward you after school. Mommy will take you to Sonic. mommy will do whatever I tell her she can use and I also tell him hey if you go to school and do your work and listen and don’t get in trouble for not doing your work. I will buy you a toy or two toys or whatever just to get him rolling and I’ve been doing work in the morning with him like a morning work to make his brain Awake and he seems to like it because he does it perfectly fine at home and he tells me that he loves doing work and he gets excited when he’s done

@Kandida @Meme also this isn’t his first year school he used to go to daycare and he also did pre-K he’s in kindergarten now and we have never had trouble with him doing his work. He loved it. I’m scared that something going on in school that’s he not telling me but when we asked if everything‘s OK and if you have a good day, he said yeah

@Glori could it be his seating arrangements in class ? Theres so many factors at this age and they’re little humans trying to figure it out. Give him and yourself lots of grace. This is just the beginning ❤️

Could he be bored by the work if he can do it with no issue could be a sign he’s understimulated by the work as it’s not enough of a challenge to him

Referring to what Denise said, maybe it’s hard for him to concentrate in class with all of the people around him. I have ADD and when I was in class and had to take tests or do work, I would hyper focus on everyone else’s pencils writing and everyone turning pages..I literally couldn’t concentrate on my own work and I couldn’t comprehend what I was reading and it would overwhelm me. I had to get the teachers to let me do my work/take tests in a separate room. I’m not sure if this is an option, but I thought my info might be so help. ❤️

@Elena this actually helps I will try and see about this thank you so much

@Glori of course! I hope you find some answers and a solution ❤️