My husband wants to choose a cultural middle name. I’m not keen. We aren’t speaking atm. Honest advice please
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He should definitely be willing to compromise more. What are some of the names he likes? Maybe we can find something with similar meaning or come up with some nicknames that are easier to pronounce
Hi, I’m sorry you’re going thru this; it’s a stressful time and for men they don’t necessarily understand or get it until the baby is here. You’re definitely not being unreasonable; but if there is a way to compromise on both the first and middle, that would be ideal. There needs to be a compromise and understanding of both cultures. Have you asked why it needs to be a cultural middle name? I know my best friend gave her first son’s middle name her husband’s name. There is no right or wrong; I like the idea above about a nickname or similar sounding name
My husband is Hispanic and I’m Asian. Our first son has his first name and middle name is a cultural name (on my side). He liked it, I liked it. Now I’m pregnant with baby #2 due in December with another boy. We semi picked out the first name and middle name will be a cultural name again. He didn’t like the first cultural name option so I’m like, okay. We can try a different one. I told him the second cultural name and he liked it. So we figured it out/compromised. Our first son has both of our last names hyphenated. Baby #2 will have both our last names hyphenated also.
You’re not being unreasonable!! He needs to learn compromise.
I’m American and my husband is Tanzanian. We live in America. My son has a cultural name as well as an American name. I like it because then he has something to connect to both cultures but we definitely agreed that we were going to do that. It took some discussion about how we would name our son. It took some compromising.
We have my son an Irish name but my husbands request was that it wouldn’t be difficult for teachers to pronounce and that my son would be able to write it easily in school! I think it was a reasonable request and we found a compromise!
I don’t think you are being unreasonable, it’s your child too! With our first my MIL kept trying to pressure me into choosing a family name as his middle name but I wouldn’t back down because 1. I didn’t like it especially next to the first name we chose and 2. I felt that if my son was getting his last name he should get a name I chose (and I chose my grandfathers name) but it should be something you both like not just your husband especially if it’s your first! Maybe you could research names from his culture and find a couple that you do like!