Toys

My step son (10) literally has a room full of toys that he wanted and rather play with my 2 year old sons toys. He used to come from mums saying he was forced to play with his then toddler sisters toys which I don’t believe as even when my two year old isn’t playing with him he will still play with the toddler toys. He’s allowed to bring them downstairs to play or play upstairs but chooses not to. Also I know he goes to his mums saying that he ‘has’ to play with his brother which isn’t the full truth, the only time I ask is so I can do something quickly. My SS has the bigger room out the both which I don’t think it’s fair as he’s only here half the time and doesn’t even use it and my son is in a small box room which we can’t play in cause there is no room. I’m so sick of paying a fortune on toys for him not to play with because he doesn’t want to or he doesn’t want to share them with his brother but expects us to tell his brother to share

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Such a tricky age! Still a kid wants the latest toys but also growing up that they realise quickly they’re boring I’d speak to him about maybe moving rooms and making his room more ‘grown up’ and getting rid of some of his toys he doesn’t play with and moving some they can play together downstairs and putting the ‘baby’ toys in 2yesr olds room? But then I don’t think many 2 year olds play in their bedrooms often anyway so maybe just continue as you are for a while longer by which point SS will only want gaming console etc in his room and easier to swap

@Amy tbh I don’t think my partner would be for them changing rooms and yeah good point tbh. I’m just fed up of spending money on items he doesn’t use. I’d understand if we picked the toys but he gets to pick what he wants and last year I used the money I put away for something for me on his Christmas stuff and it just feels like a waste which I know is more his dads fault but also he just thinks money grows on trees

I get your partners view but also it’s probably going to naturally happen in a few years I get that! I’ve spent A FORTUNE on Lego my son has asked for andddd he’s never built haha! Lesson learnt for this year clothes and trainers only 😫🤣 It’s the joys of kids and trust me your son will do the exact same in a few years - I wouldn’t be spending money you saved for yourself in his gifts though that isn’t right

I feel like you’ve taken the words right out of my mouth! My SD will only play with my daughters toys & it infuriates me as she literally has everything she wants and every time we go out my partner always buys her something because she wants it- as soon as we get in its discarded and forgotten about! I’ve even bought my SD the SAME toy and she still plays with my daughters but she will distract her with something else, take the toy she wants and then say to her dad that she wants to play with him & not her sister and try & keep her toy away from her & it’s gotten to the point she’s taking my daughters things, hiding them in her room and lying about having it. I’m at a loss- they play so lovely together but when she does this she gets such attitude and dismissive of my daughter 🫠

@Amy sounds harsh but I’ve refused to buy him birthday/christmas using my money cause I was sick of it going to waste especially as my son wasn’t getting as much. His dad paid for his stuff so he didn’t go without

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