Same name as ex…?

So I’m about 30 weeks pregnant with my first. My ex left me for a 20 year old (we are both in our 30s) about a month ago, he’s a horrible person and emotionally abused me for years as well as cheated on me more times than I can count. So safe to say I’m struggling emotionally but think it’s safest that he’s gone. My real question is…I’ve always loved a certain name but it also happens to be his middle name. We decided together to name him that name. Is it weird to still want that name??

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Honestly no. If you still have something positive connected to the name i dont see why you can’t use it

Did you ever refer to him by his middle name? I guess my question is, how much to do you really associate that name with him. I never use my husband's name to refer to him So I don't think I'd have negative associations ifi was in your shoes. But if his middle name was his nickname or something I think it would be a lot harder. It's really up to you. There's no law against it.

I’ve never used his middle name unless I was joking with him and called him by his whole name. I guess I’m a little concerned his family or even mine will think it’s weird.

What's the name, do you mind sharing?

Avery Bennett, or I’m thinking Avery William (Avery is the exes middle)

No, I really like the name Avery. Plus even though he’s not a great person your son will probably like having that connection with him

That's a lovely name. I think family will get over it if they think it's weird initially. Eventually it will become your kid's name more than Dad's middle name.

I personally wouldn’t.

@Gemini what would be your reasoning? Really debating!

I just wouldn’t want to name my child anything that would remind me of him, and your ex seems like he’s a horrible person like you said, so I would find a new name.

Good luck! Let us know what you decide 😍

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