Would you pay for your first child's first birthday party or should you half it with your partner?

I've rented an Airbnb for my LO's first birthday party for a weekend. Check in on the Saturday and checkout on Monday. Plus, we don't have to be rushed for everything! Now, my partner had told his family about the party, and they think it's a terrible plan. They think we should get a hall. The Air bnb is £300 for 2 nights and 3 days compared to a hall that's only going to be used for an afternoon and we have to rush everything! My partner said he doesn't want to pay for it because he's family thinks it's a bad idea but I want my LO to have a nice birthday for her first birthday.

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Did your partner have no idea the party was going to be a 2 night/3 day airbnb before it was booked? If he knew what you were booking and he agreed and went along with it, then he should pay half but if you just booked it and then later said, this is what I've booked, I'd maybe feel a bit annoyed about it, if I was him because it seems like lot of time for a birthday and the days/nights will cost additional money on top, presumably, for food/drink etc for those days/nights and the guests.....but, that being said, he should still pay for his babies first birthday. I can just see 2 sides depending on how this was planned x

Hi Rhiannon, the party is just for sunday afternoon. Just wanting more time to set everything up and clean up. Since his side of the family is VERY LAZY and it'll probably end up with just my family setting up and cleaning. I see your point, but he knew it was just for sunday afternoon and a hall cost about £300+ around out area. Basically the same price as the airbnb

That explains a lot. Your plan literally makes not one jott of difference to his side of the family, so I can't see why they are complaining about it at all. A hall would be 1 day, and so is the AirBnB when it comes to any input from them, but this way, you get the benefit of more time and to enjoy a place away from home. Are his family confused and think they need to be there more than they do? He absolutely should pay his half and also physically contribute to the setup and also tell his family to mind their business and that he supports the party. X

Mom of 3 here, I would have waited until the second or third birthday party to spend this much money. My little one is three and he doesn’t remember his second or first birthday and he barely could even do anything on his first birthday. He cried while eating cake and I mostly opened all his presents. However, we went to a waterpark for my other child’s birthday in march and my 3 year old is obsessed with the waterpark now that he’s been there and remembers it well. Idk I’m gonna have to side with them on this one. Should he contribute? Absolutely but you guys should come up with a compromise.

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Your child is not going to even recognise the gesture. So keep it small and simple. Mine are 4 in a month and 2.5 and I have never done parties because they don't even have any comprehension of what's going on. My 4 year old does now, but I still will not pay over £200 for a party. So we have fun days out instead x

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