Mixed feelings
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What are you worried that you’re not excited about?
When i was pregnant my friends and family, even my husband were more excited about my pregnancy than i was but after giving birth everything changed. I love my son to bits😊 So no, that doesn't make you a bad mom at all. Obviously you think about how the pregnancy amd maternity will impact going back to work. My son is now 9 months and I'm looking to go back. In my line of work having long breaks between jobs makes it harder to find one and at 37yo I'm not looking to retrade.
Sometimes it's hard to connect with baby until you're face to face. Don't worry, even if you take time after that to feel attachment it doesn't make you a bad mum. Definitely tell a professional if you don't feel connected after the baby is here as it can be ppd, and your hormones are all over the place, and it doesn't make you a bad person or mum. You're going through so much in your body and mind right now, it's not an easy process and it's easier for the people around you who are "level headed" and not going through hormone rollercoasters and body changes, to get excited. Give yourself time. You're gonna be okay.
It’s such a huge change that it’s totally normal to feel apprehensive, especially if you’re quite career minded. I’m super nervous about being left behind in my job as i’m fairly senior in the team and love what I do so I can see how you’d be thinking about returning to work already. I also think everyone asking if you’re excited adds SO MUCH pressure and that can be hard to process. I’m pulling back from some people constantly asking about my pregnancy as it’s soooo draining and suddenly people have a huge interest in my body which I hate. You’re not a bad Mum at all , just on your own journey x
@Hannah I think it's more my reaction. I tell people I'm pregnant and they seem more excited than me about it. People ask me if I'm excited and I say yeah but I don't seem to feel that Omg I'm pregnant feeling
I am exactly the same. I am generally quite an unenthusiastic person and don’t love the attention being on me so I have put some of it down to this. But also like other people have said it’s a huge change and I know I’m struggling with the stress of my life being completely different in a few months time. Don’t put any pressure on yourself to feel any certain way because how you feel now doesn’t define whether you’ll be a good mum or not. I’ve actually asked certain people to stop asking if I’m “excited” because I find it an annoying question which sets an expectation of me, you have every right to do the same! 🥰
Thankyou for this
Are you talking about giving birth? If you are then no, it doesn't make you a bad mum.