Nesting and scared ?
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Totally valid 🤍 Nesting isn’t a requirement either so don’t feel like you have to do anything or you’re behind. All your little baby needs is a safe place to sleep and you. You won’t touch that nursery for a few months after baby is born anyways! Do what feels right for you!
This is my 5th pregnancy but he will be my first born I’ve had miscarriages and even an ectopic pregnancy that killed my last child and almost me a few years ago. It’s hard I didn’t even start acknowledging my son until about a month ago because I’d never made it past my first trimester before and I’m one week away now from being on my third because I was afraid of getting too attached just to lose him. So with that being said I’m very much afraid as well but you have to stay optimistic and stay on top of taking your vitamins eating right and light exercising while also keeping your stress at a minimum. Stay strong you got this!
My son is 2 and has only slept in his room to nap a handful of times. As long as baby has a safe place to sleep near you, you’re all set. This new baby I have done absolutely nothing. They will sleep in the bassinet next to the bed, then transition to the mini crib in our room for a bit after that. Hopefully they don’t spend 2 years in our room as well, lol.
You still have plenty of time and starting in November is totally fine. To ease your mind, if your baby was born today there’s an 80-90% chance of survival. So while your fears and trauma from your miscarriage are totally valid, you’re in a completely different place right now at this very moment! I don’t do kick counts, but I think kick counts are totally a good idea for you to help ease your anxiety. Always go into L&D if you feel something is off. But you’ll have your baby with you soon enough! And having some things prepared will make life easier. You don’t need anything fancy, but the basics: a few clothes, diapers, wipes, a safe sleeping place (bassinet or crib). Some other essentials for me in the first few weeks were: a sound machine, a rocking chair, nursing pillow, silver nipple cups and nipple cream, a baby swing, zip up swaddles. I had a nursery with my first and she never slept there (baby is safest in the same room with parents for the first year), so don’t stress it.
Oh, that's so hard. Babies don't need a frilly, fancy room if it's too stressful to prepare. Some babies barely spend time in a nursery cause they end up sleeping near Mom, being held in the main spaces of your home etc etc. make sure you have the essentials ready and don't worry about painting etc.