Baby name use… is the name taken?

So I have had a baby girl name picked out for 16 years. My ex has used that name for themselves now and I am wondering if I should feel ok to use the name still or if I should give up on this name I love? A little back story… I wanted to name my little girl Eloise for years after loving the book Eloise at the Plaza. I was engaged once before (ended in good terms) but since we were engaged, they knew my little girl name. (It was never a secret and I talked about it a lot!) when we broke up 4 years ago, my ex transitioned from a male to a female (she/they) and has since transformed entirely. Including with a new name… my baby name. (And yeah, they are aware) They decided to go by the name that is a nickname for Eloise (which I always intended for my daughter.) when I brought this up 3 years ago that I was hurt, they said it was a compliment and I should be flattered. We still keep in touch, but part of me feels like they stole my baby name. Fast forward to now. My husband and I are discussing little girls names and he thinks we should still be able to use the name.. would you feel too weird that it might be a shot name or would you feel like it’s ok since you may not be associate to them the rest of your life?

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I'd def still use it!

I think it'd still be fine to use it, especially if the ex isn't regularly in your life and won't be in the life of your baby.

I'd use it! I think if you're that passionate about a name, you should use it

Oh my. This is tricky. In my opinion, I think you’ll always think of this history tied to the name now. What about the name Elodie. It’s close and equally gorgeous name. it has a few different meanings in Greek It means flower of the fields. French it means wealth or riches. I’ve also seen it means white blossom.

I wouldn't use it or talk to them again, mean girl energy

I would use it because your ex did what he/she did knowing it would hurt you and did it anyway.

I’d use it

Hmm that's a hard one. How often do you still talk to your ex? Do you meet up in person too or just messages? Depends whether the name will make you think of your book or your ex too. Lots of people wouldn't name a baby the same name as an ex in case it just made them think of their ex. But this is a bit different as they weren't called that when you knew them, and you'd chosen the name before... Maybe use as a middle name?

Use it

Ya in this case I’d definitely still use it. The person is already well aware that this was ‘your name first’ so there’s none of the issue where they’ll think you’re copying them or something. And they probably aren’t a regular in your family’s life so no practical issues there either

You can totally use it and should feel empowered to but I personally wouldn’t. In a slightly different but similar vein, I had a top girl name (Georgia - Gigi) but my long term ex just named his daughter Georgina, going by Gigi. Everyone agrees I could totally still name a baby girl that but for me I can’t stop the connection back to him which I don’t think is healthy or I want so I’m going to go in a different direction. I think it depends on how you feel about the name now and whether you can personally separate it

Id wait until she's born if you look at her and she fits Eloise perfectly id definitely use it. It was your name first.

I bet your ex didn’t tell their new partner this was going to be your baby name when you were a couple 😂. I’d be well pissed off.

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