Excited, yet disappointed for birthday

Is it possible to move his party to a later date when your husband's available?

@Laura that's looking like it won't be till next month

I'm sorry. I wouldn't want to host my kid's party without my husband either. Would your in-laws be willing to host at their house? That might take some pressure off?

@Laura I love my in laws but my mother in-law already treats my children like they are her children, and giving her this would break my heart.

If you can stand postponing it, I would. Don’t tell the in-laws why. We postponed one birthday 6 months once (she was turning 1 and had no idea) and another birthday 4 months (she knew and agreed because we were saving up for a big “friend birthday”. I’m sorry it’s hurting so bad. It made me feel weird too. But in the end it was great.

@Cecilia-Jean oh shoot. I have one of those MILs too! I'll cross my fingers for you that your husband ends up not having to work! If you decide to wait on the party, at least our little ones are probably not old enough to notice.

@Ele my biggest hurtle for postponing is the weather, he's a rambunctious boy and I like to have his parties outside, and if my mother in law even thinks we're postponing because I'm too stressed she'll take it over (in a well meaning way, but I feel steamrolled)

@Ele money to rent a place doesn't exist, and idk about the weather here we just moved to Oklahoma from washington state. My mil is the same she "asks" to "help" and if I say no I'm the bad guy

If possible I’d probably postpone for when your husband can be there. Maybe then in place of when his party was supposed to be you could do something fun just the two of you. What I did for my son last year was planned out his party with family but the day of his birthday my husband had to work so I took my son to the pet store to walk around and see the animals there, we then played at the park and had a little picnic type lunch. You could even get a small treat or something for him as well. Are there any parks in your area with a pavilion area that you could do a party there?

@Maisey yeah we have a couple parks around us that my son loves and I was planning on making his cupcakes that day no matter what