Ferber success stories please

Hey! Hang on in there. We did a modified Ferber method 6 months ago now (baby now 1) and I can honestly say it's the best decision we ever made. I was very against sleep training at first but then his sleep became so bad I felt I had no other choice for all of our health and wellbeing. It went much better than expected. It's obviously difficult hearing your baby cry but he actually didn't cry for as long as I expected and we got solid chunks of four hours of sleep on night 1 and 2 which was unheard of up to that point! He's gone from being one of the worst sleepers out of his peers to one of the best. Please feel free to message me. I know it's extremely tough right now but it will be worth it and you will both be happier in the long run x

I considered this and found Lyndsey Hookway instead ❤️ would definitely recommend. I couldn’t do Ferber. My instincts were screaming at me that it was not the right decision for my babies

@Joanna I’m actually doing her holistic course at the moment cos I don’t have the stomach for it either. But my partner got some really good success last night. My biggest fear is that he’ll suffer in silence at night when he needs me (if he’s ill or teething) but we’re so desperate for a good night sleep that we’re doing an approach that feels manageable for us. What exactly did you find helped from her method? His routine is on point but we just can’t nail bedtime

@Izzy thank you for sharing this 🫂 last night wasn’t all too bad after all. Took about 30 mins to get him down and I was standing in the kitchen on off crying with ear buds in 😂 my partner did the hard work. We’re doing a super modified one that feels right for us, going in every 1 minute and picking up to cuddle and staying until he’s nice and calm. He also took a dummy and fell asleep with it which is the first time since he was a newborn (now 15m and I’m trying to move away from bf) He’s also been the worst sleeper of all babies I know and as much as I love to co sleep and feed him I am desperate for some good quality sleep and for sleep to be less of an everyday topic. It’s taken over my life in the worst way 😞 For example these last few nights it’s taken 1-2 hours to get him to sleep and naps have been hard. He doesn’t want to be rocked so I feel this is all I can do now! I’ll still go in and feed in the early hours of the morning for now until I night wean

Last night made me worry a little as he was coughing but not calling for me. Just having a little moan. It woke me and I went to feed him and cuddle him anyway but it makes me sad to think that he’ll wake with discomfort and not call for me. But on the other hand I do just want to sleep better and in my own bed! And I have to remember that when he’s well he doesn’t have much need for me to come see him in the night and he won’t be suffering as such. Even if he woke just once in the night for a cuddle I would handle that but it’s every 2-3 hours 😣

The floor bed was an absolute game changer for us. I’d never even heard of one before having a child! Thankfully we were able to turn our cot/toddler bed into a floor bed quite easily. It meant I could feed to sleep and roll away 🙌🏻 Started with naps and then progressed to nights. Just the start of the night to begin with and then built up from there. That gave me the break and bit of time to sleep on my own to power through. My eldest is now nearly 4 and a great little sleeper. She was the ultimate Velcro baby and I used to live in fear that we were ruining her. Now she’ll come through if she has a nightmare or ‘something isn’t right’ 🙄😂 but that’s really not very often. My mum is still amazed as we did everything they advised against when I was a baby. We have a 16 month old now too and doing the same - though this baby is easier going. Not sure if it’s just her temperament or if it’s because we’re more relaxed. Maybe a bit of both. You will sleep again ❤️

@Joanna we went from a cot to floor bed and then back to a cot the beginning of the week. I thought it would be a sustainable option for us but in the end I was unable to go back to bed in the night and he would wake whenever I left. And I was flipping freezing on the floor 😂 AND this morning I saw a wood louse crawl over it and I was then thankful he’s off the floor. I was really hoping the floor bed would work for us but I also don’t feel like he feels safe on it without me as it’s an open space. I feel awful because I keep changing things but I’m desperate to find something sustainable that suits us all 😞 Getting him to sleep and night wakes have been especially difficult lately so just feel we need a drastic change. My biggest fear is a lack of connection and him having feelings of loneliness and like he can’t call for me if something is up. But I also want him to feel safe and able to go to sleep if he briefly wakes in the night. I feel so much lately it’s hard 😢