Feeling unsure about everything

Hello Ladies! Well, I am 40 weeks + 5 days and scheduled to be induced on Friday. Full disclosure, I am 36 years old and this is my first. I have never had that "feeling" like it seems most women do that they MUST have children. I have never desired it, it always sounds nice but if it didn't happen, I was okay with that too. Well, I married someone who really wanted children so we made it happen. However, now that it's getting closer, I am so incredibly nervous about it. I am not sure if it's the labour or whats to come after, my age or just a mix of all of it but I can't shake this feeling!! Like, not one part of me is excited about this to be happening, my nerves have taken away any excitement I had felt earlier in the pregnancy. I guess I am just wondering if any other moms felt this way before having kids and what changed for you? Posting incognito as I am quite embarrassed to be feeling this way even after my due date. Thank you ❤
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Totally feeling this at the moment! My partner wanted children and to an extent so did I however this pregnancy is taking its toll on my physical and mental health. We are extremely high risk and I fed up of having to challenging medical professionals to meet our needs. I’m by myself around 16hrs a day and going insane I hope it gets better for you

it will all change once you hold your baby 💜

There’s nothing be embarrassed about ❤️ you are definitely will be a great mother 🤍 I had my first just two weeks ago and it’s best thing that ever happened to me . Even tho throughout my pregnancy most of time emotionally it wasn’t easy but after all the labour and seeing my baby it’s feeling hard to describe. You get this 💪💪 that change it’s worth it believe me 😇 I hope you have a very positive labour 🤍

Totally normal. I delivered at 36 with my first as well. I really wanted to be pregnant, but had no idea what to do with a newborn. It is absolutely normal not to connect with your baby right away. I was excited, but once she was here it took a while to get to know her. Don't be afraid to tell your medical team about that and ask for help There's a lot of resources they can connect you with. Postpartum is hard, even when you are excited. The amount of hormones happening now is insane and can really mess with your head. You got this!

I fully understand! I’m 37 first time mom to be and same boat as you. Never thought I could have kids, so never really had that maternal itch everyone describes. I’m definitely excited, nervous, anxious and all the feelings. But fully understanding your POV. Take deep breaths and know you’ve got support!!

Thank you so much everyone for your support! I am in early labour for about 24 hours now! I am feeling a bit more optimistic now that I know she's coming. Your kind words mean so much ❤ thank you!

wishing you the best for a safe and speedy delivery mama! 💜💜💜

Best of luck!!!

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