Need some opinions

My child just started school. First school experience. Basically, the teacher keeps complaining to me saying that during rest time he tries to walk up to other kids and play with them instead of resting. Basically, that he’s also distracting them. But knowing my child I always see that he copy’s behaviour. He never comes up with something in his own unless he sees someone else doing it. For example: when u would drop him off to school he would be fine until he noticed that another boy constantly cries and he started doing exactly same thing. When we take him to indoor playgrounds, always go to same ones. He plays on his own and minds his own business. I also witnessed few times how other kids would come up to him and take toys away that he would be playing with and even push him off to take those toys and he never did snitching back. For church my mom brings a little mat and he plays on it and other kids join but still he’s always minding his business. So, I’m not understanding why he would be acting completely opposite in school. But since the first day the teacher was already all up in my face. How should I handle it?

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Honestly i would ask my kid. My kids school also sends daily photos so i would ask the teacher if she can snap a photo of him in the act for when you are “correcting his behavior” purposes. Just to see if she can provide it.

I think it’s bizarre that she’s making this your problem. As their guardian during those hours it’s her responsibility to deal with that behaviour. Do you come to her moaning about how your son threw his dinner last night and how she needs to sort his behaviour out in class tomorrow? I find this weird. If she gets all up in your face again I’d say, “sounds like a you problem, we don’t have these kind of issues with him on our time” and leave it at that x

@Natacha I tried talking to a teacher but it’s like talking to a wall. Doesn’t care at all about what I have to say but since day one she was picking at me

@Naomi that’s the thing he never throws food at home or anywhere else if we are out. He just says he doesn’t want it or pushes away from him. It’s like, literally she’s telling me about completely different child because what she says he does, never seen him do it

No I know lovely, sorry, I was just using that as a hypothetical example. But you see what I mean, the principle is, it’s not your job to teach your child in her class when he’s on her time, it’s hers, and when the roles are reversed you can see how bizarre it is xx hope that makes sense xx

@Naomi I completely understand your point. I’m just saying that she’s telling me that he has behaviour that he never had and still doesn’t show when we are around considering around me and his father he’s very comfortable

I’d just like to add that my daughter is the same age (in Australia) and attends preschool. They have a designated ‘rest’ time but half the kids don’t nap anymore and many of them do quiet activities instead like drawing or reading. To make rest time mandatory at that age seems strange as they will all need to drop their nap soon in time for big school. Secondly if there is an ongoing issue with your child she should arrange an informal time to talk about it properly and ask for your input and also come up with strategies herself with how to manage her class. I would politely but firmly put it back on her.

How old are the children? If they’re nearly 4 they don’t need a long rest time. How long is the teacher making them rest for? 10-15 minutes of quiet relaxation should be plenty. The teacher needs to make rest time more suitable for the children. Ask if your son can have special books or puzzles to play with so he doesn’t distract the others

@Ellen some kids like mine almost 4, the rest already turned 4. Their rest time is 40 minutes. She did tell me that he tries instead playing with toys but she isn’t letting him

They should let him read books or something after 15 mins. 40 mins is way too long for kids that age to sit and do nothing ::

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