Baby girl name

If there's other names you loves and would be happy to have them I don't see why not? It's not anyone elses business. We personally haven't told anyone what we're naming our boy this time for similar reasons and because there's always people who winge not liking certain names etc. I think if it has bothered you so much you want to change it then do so. Just don't tell them the new name and keep it a surprise at birth x

Absolutely. Your baby, you decide! You don’t need to ask if it’s okay to change your own baby’s name 🫶

If you and your husband want to change the name, go for it. What was the name? If you don't mind me asking.

It ruined the name? I’d love to know more about that.

@Amber When a couple is getting ready to have a baby, it seems everyone makes it about themselves and not the couple who are having the baby. I specifically told everyone that they need to ask permission before posting anything about my daughter before and after she was born. Most have respected my request but there have been a few who “do whatever they want” as they tell me. It ruins the experience for the couple especially the mother who we all know is the one who grew that baby from start to finish inside of her. Pregnancy is a special time for a woman and if someone takes away your special moments it’s like…why did you do that?

@Hannah it was Annie Jane the middle name is the one they ruined the excitement for due to them telling the person before we did what her name was due to them being excited.. so it was made out to be a little thing that irked me not to like the name any more 🥺

@Amber it ruined the experience of picking a name for my daughter because it was special to me and my family and my husband told his mom since she is over our midwife care and his family found out and they announced the name before We did. His family especially makes me feel so horrible about most things because for most of my husbands life they used him for everything unfortunately because he was different. It doesn’t matter how much excitement one has for their family…. You do not under any circumstances announce their news before they do! It ruins one’s excitement for their own news. Therefore also ruins how they feel about sharing anything they have going on in the future

That seems dramatic.

@Amber Ew someone definitely let’s people walk all over them

@Amber it is not dramatic, especially when you had to share the news of you being pregnant in the first place with everyone the day you found out because if not, they weren’t gonna leave you alone about it .once again not your choice what is dramatic? Is you commenting on someone else’s post wanting to know information and then saying that is dramatic when it’s not this creates trauma for other people you’re not gonna find friends on here and you’re not gonna find people to support you if you’re gonna act like this, I’m sorry, but I’m not sorry. Have a great day and I hope the Lord blesses you in the way that you need.

You literally asked for the opinions of strangers on this app about this exact topic. If you don’t want our opinions, don’t ask. If you’re just looking for validation for a decision you’ve obviously already made, you’ll probably get it from someone but don’t expect it from everyone. It is dramatic to change your future child’s name for the sole reason that you weren’t the first person to announce it. Sometimes people are shitty and disappointing, but you may feel better if you don’t give them the power to ruin things for you. You chose the name and they must like it, too. You did a good job choosing it and you may not feel the same way about another name. You’re entitled to do whatever you want, but no one should be so powerful as to change your mind about something you love.

That sounds super frustrating and you have every right to be annoyed but changing a name you love for this reason alone seems like kind of a dramatic overreaction. Especially since you’ve said the name honors someone who probably is now going to feel like the act of telling them was more important than the actual name itself. I don’t know, it just seems like you’re over reacting.

@Amber, you literally could have just posted that last paragraph. You instead chose to be very rude.

@Oshyanna, I'd look for other names in case you find one you love more than Annie Jane and not with the intention of changing the name. You may feel that she just IS Annie Jane. If you don't, though, and you do give her a different name, that is perfectly OK. Also, I would tell your husband that he is not under any circumstances allowed to tell his mum anymore news without your consent and that you would just prefer she found out with everyone else or after everyone if she can't keep her mouth shut. I'm sorry she took your joy and excitement. She had zero right, and your feelings are valid. Question: Why is she over your midwife care?

@Hannah it was his grandmother who shared the news as well as a few of my friends but his mother is over our care due to me wanting to do home birth and her wanting it to do it as a gift which is a blessing. I feel a lot safer with her providing our care as well due to my previous ob not being the best. As a poc I didn’t feel heard or understood.

@Oshyanna, that's understandable. You still deserve boundaries. His mum shared the news first. Mum and Grandma need to be on what they call an "information diet." Do not give them news you don't want shared. I was upset enough that my SIL posted our son and his name before we could. I'd be livid if she actually told my family and the people he was named after. I'm sorry, OP.

@Hannah I have already decided to change the middle name only because it wasn’t set in stone to begin with that is why I was very upset it was being shared. I appreciate your advice thank you for your kindness 😊

@Oshyanna, I hope everything works out for you and baby girl ❤️