Potty advice needed..

You've probably already tried it but maybe a sticker chart for doing it on the toilet? Then once she's got say 5 stickers she can pick a treat in the shop (like a kinder egg/ pack of sweets)? Xx

You should probably work on getting the poop in the potty before worrying about her telling you. Keep eagle eyes on her and when she goes to hide scoop her up and put her on the potty. You might have to distract her a bit by reading or singing to get her to relax enough to go. Once she figures out poop goes in the potty she will start telling you.

Question - if you take her to the bathroom or prompt her to go and you know she needs to poo, does she try or resist?

I struggled with that too. I knew when she was hiding she’d poop so I’d try to catch her and put her on the potty but then she’d stop going so I just let her poop in the underwear and left her pants off. She ended up hating the feeling of it and would actually bring me the poop (I know it’s gross 😅) but I had her put it in the potty herself and she started going by herself. I also let her have a book/pictures/tablet to play with while she pooped and she got it quickly

@Anna she will come tell me when she has to pee so I can turn the lights on for her and few times before she would come tell me she needed to poop, but now she'll just come tell me she needs to be changed

@Mallory she will just say "I don't have to" even though I know she does and then will hold it till she can go hide

Sounds like it could be a form of withholding. She may also just need more privacy for poop. My son was a withholder who needed privacy - would ask me to turn around or leave so he can pee/poo. Could you try having her bottomless for a couple days to see if she gets it in the potty since there would be nothing to poop in or change?

@Mallory I'm willing to try anything at this point! I'll try that, thank you for your advice!

What helped me with my little one is usually the poop (or we like to call it boom boom) comes after she peepee is keeping her on the toilet a little longer after she has peepee’d , and then congratulating her after she did it in the toilet.

Honestly I brought my girls in the bathroom with me when I had to go and made it fun and would show them so now every time they go they have a little party in there and have to show me. Lol which is 100% okay with me because I get to make sure their butts are clean!

Someone already suggested it, but a reward chart! We don’t have one but every time my LO goes poop on the potty he gets a Pokémon card (he’s 3). He had enough now that we put them in a binder and he can flip through them to see how he’s done it before and there’s the excitement of getting another cool one.

We also encourage him to try and even if he doesn’t go say “thanks for trying!” Or “good job trying!” And we remind him to “listen to his body because sometimes it says we don’t have to go potty, but then we do” and that will generally get him to at least try or sit longer. Or like someone else said, read a book, sing or play a song to keep her distracted