Overwhelming jealousy

Anyone else experiencing overwhelming jealousy when they see posts about people being pregnant with their second child so close to having their first? It still hasn’t happened for us and the smaller age gap I was envisioning for my children is fading away.
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I felt that way about everyone who was pregnant or had kids when I was trying. It took 2.5yrs for me to get pregnant. now that I have my daughter though, I'm trying really hard to just focus on her and how lucky I am to have her and if another baby isn't in the cards for us, that will be ok because I already have the most amazing baby. I'm sure you will love whatever age gap you end up with ❤️

Yes I do. For the longest time I was an only child. Theres a 6 years gap btwn me and my brother and a 19 yr gap between my sister and I. I always said I won't do that my kids. I have a son right now who is 13 months. I wanted hubby and I to start trying around December for a second but that won't happen because we hit some financial issues which is holding us back. I thought by now we would have gotten out of the pit we are in, but nope. Still here struggling. Trying for a second baby that we can't afford would be foolishness and irresponsible so I guess my son will be an only child and grow up lonely just as I did. 😞

Yes - we aren’t trying yet but seeing everyone have new babies makes me want one sooner. Can’t convince my husband though

@Kimoya hey I saw this comment and felt compelled to reply. I went to one of the most expensive private schools in nor cal in a scholarship along with my siblings and we grew up really loving and respecting each other while a lot of the more privileged kids with more “put together” parents actually somehow hated their family. You should still go for a second baby if that’s what your heart desires and work on finances as you go! Money doesn’t make a family work but love will!! ❤️

@Kimoya hi just wanted to say financial struggles should not hold you back! when i got pregnant with my first, my husband decided to bite the bullet and start his own business. As with all new businesses, this first year has been tough and when i got pregnant again only 6 months pp, i genuinely freaked tf out. Im a sahm and we budget already as it is. We had a sedan but it would’ve been extremely tight in the back with now 2 car seats, we were gonna have to upgrade and just a million extra expenses started flooding in. We are so so grateful both of our families have been extremely generous. My mom is buying me a car seat, my sil bought us a crib to extend our cal king so we can continue co sleeping with now 4 pp, and my in laws are throwing us a baby shower and my extended family is pitching in for our newborn pictures. Due to all this help, we just bought our new suv with plenty of room for a growing family. My husband’s business is growing and looks like we’ll be out of our rut soon!

All this to say, things change in no time

@Eden thank you so much for your encouragement and for even feeling compelled to reply to me. ❤️

@Kass omg I definitely would have been freaking out. Kuddos to you for hanging in there. And it helps that you have such loving and supportive people around you. I don't have that at all but I have hubby and my little boy so I've gotta stay strong and keep pushing. Thank you for your encouragement!

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