You can take some elimination communication tips: Everytime she has a accident, say "oh you are peeing/you went pee" and remind her pee goes in the potty. When theyve been in diapers it disconnects them from the elimination process, so its sort of just automatic reflex to go when urge strikes whenever/wherever. To reconnect them to their bodily awareness you gotta verbally connect the dots with the action. Also, have her help you to clean it up. Make it inconvenient for her lol. She's too old for generic timing most likely from a elimination communication standpoint anyway. Sometimes you have to trust she knows when she has to go. But if ur going to use a generic timing method I suggest writing downtown long between each pee is and get an average. That way u take her closer to her natural timing. Anyways, good luck
You should try letting her run around without diapers or anything while she is home. I did that with my middle child and April 2022 child, it for some reason helps them actually get to know when they have to go. My son isn’t perfect yet but he rarely poops his undies or sleeptime diapers. He also has days where he does stay completely dry even if we are out. It’s hard work but eventually your kiddo will get it. Keep working at it but if she ever acts scared of the potty don’t force her, that’s when you take a break for a few months and try again later.
@Erin I’m thinking of trying that. I’ve been so hesitant since my entire house is carpeted except the kitchen, bathroom, laundry room and entry way. But I’m highly considering it.
@Jade I decided to give the timing a break and I’ve been sitting with her just watching her cues. Had ONE successful potty today. Keeping hope.
@Katie thanks. I’m thinking of doing that next. We stood home last weekend since it was a long weekend but it was not successful. Might try again this weekend but without undies.
Also a friend just told me about plastic undies u have them wear undies an put on plastic undies. If possible u can let her be naked outside I don't have any neighbors so it worked Or play in 1 solid room with towel on floor Good luck
I found what worked for me is to reward her when she went with a piece of chocolate! 😝 I gave her one for trying and 5 for going!!! (A bag of chocolate chips goes far and is like $3). She got so excited and used to just trying it was perfect. I did the naked method too which helped but the reward method was ideal for others like sitters! I also didn’t even do the small potty because when we were out and about I didn’t want her scared of using a big potty. Good luck mama!!
Sounds exhausting for your child and you! Try the 3 day potty training.. it helps them recognize when they are peeing and the feeling of needing to go potty. My son isn’t fully potty trained but knows when he is peeing and is slowly starting to take himself to the bathroom without a reminder.
@Julie we tried the naked method. She was saying she had to pee and would go sit but wouldn’t and then hold her pee for a while. She was getting so frustrated and having all accidents both at home and in daycare so we decided to take a break and revisit in a couple of weeks. She still not connecting the urge of going to pee with actually going. She will get it eventually.
@Marie for us it just took me having faith. I know I know. Nobody wants pee on the floor. But I think it helped. She wanted to be in charge of it. So maybe that's why your daughter is holding it and going at another time. She wants to go when she signals. Does she know how to do all the steps?
@Jade she does. She just gets frustrated with the toilet. We put a carpet plastic protection cover in our family room so she could be naked. Still didn’t pee on the floor. She held it.
@Marie yea it is odd she's withholding. Maybe a break would be beneficial. Gotta be stress or a power struggle.
Honestly time didn't work for me if possible find 3 days that work for u don't go no where no distractions interact with ur child and let them be naked. We did color games, build etc after about 2days I noticed my daughter querks to potty an I say hold it lets run to toilet an she ran she does so good til Dad gets home we r still working on it, she does great thru out the day is my only advice an hope this helps