Desperately want to adopt but
Show your support
Look up the grievance process and file an appeal. I don't know where you are, but you'll probably need to get a hard copy of the necessary forms because the websites are all trash. Address the concerns in the denial letter with as much documentation as possible, and if it's not looking better, request a new reviewer. Don't give up yet! And good luck 🍀
@Sami they were consistent about not wanting to spend time at his house. He was forced to spend time with one side of his family that he didn’t want to as a kid and didn’t want to force that on them the same way so he gave them a choice and they are happy with it. They still haven’t changed their minds two years later.
Where do you live, if I may ask? I can possibly help you with adopting.
@Vanessa Texas.
@Sami by that token an awful father who refuses to relinquish custody against their kid’s wishes gets to adopt Nonetheless Writer, since you said ex was v toxic and it isn’t the point/topic here, I wanna advocate for mums to support mums as much as possible and language can drive an unsupportive culture in west: I think it’s suspiciously typical for an ex-father, no less, to describe a mother as toxic. Shows lack of empathy or understanding that they weren’t compatible, mature or timing was poor, while she became a mother and is left doing how much of the work?! There’s a maturity about respecting exes. Services might wonder how he would of been described and what made the children so uncomfortable
@Ella I never said that but you can't be a good father and sign your rights away like they are puppies either just because a child who can't make adult choices wants you to 🤷♀️ children would run the court system if that were the case. Plus tons of abused children would still be abused had the other parent just bowed out like they were nothing because eof coaching and/or threatening. You're willing to do that with your own bio children you'd be willing to do that with children that had zero relation to you other than you signed a piece of paper
The issue with that is just because it's what the kids say the want doesn't mean that was what was right to do. Especially if he knew the mother was toxic. My child says she hates me at least 2 times a month. That doesn't mean she actually hates me. Kids don't know what is in their best interest that's why they are kids. That shows poor decision making on your husband's and probably the right choice for DCFS to make.