After birth boundaries w family
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With my first, I didn't want anyone to come see us in the hospital and told family they could come when we were home. I will be doing that again with this baby. I would inform your nurses so they know not to allow any visitors into your room. Definitely stick to your boundaries! You deserve time to rest and connect with baby undisturbed!
girl im puerto rican too and I am the same way. if I could I wouldn't want anyone visiting for the 1st week minimum lol. but at the end of the day it's what you want. if they get all salty, they'll get over it eventually. I just saw this video on fb about a 7yr old who got kissed in the mouth at 2 days old by a family member and she contracted a bacteria that ate half her brain. left the poor baby unverbal and basically brain dead. you take ALL the precautions you need to
Girlllll I so felt that but I come from Cuban family 🤦🏻♀️
@naya see exactly and this is my first I’m not playing around and I’m not taking any chances especially this time of year. Idk why families be thinking the baby belongs to everyone lol but I’m very blunt and upfront about my boundaries they can be salty all they want because if anything were to happen to my baby I’d never forgive myself or any of them so I’d like to skip all that mess and they can meet the baby when me and my man are ready period
@Grace definitely going to be letting the nurses know and stuff cause it’s very important to us that we get the proper bonding time and for me to be able to heal and be with my new family. Everyone else will have a life time to meet her and get to know her but we gotta do what’s right for us first
@Lianna yea my cousin is like that she’s like I’ll be in the waiting room you better call me. I can’t wait to hold my cousin and my aunt talking about taking the baby on the weekends and stuff like girl I’m big in privacy and alone time and there gunna learn that very soon lol
@Zhayve I was literally just barely writing my rules for visitors with my baby on a poster board and my mom yelled at me and told me I have to run the rules by her first because it's her house. I'm not trying to limit visitors at the house, just what visitors are around MY baby. If a visitor comes over who doesn't follow the rules I set, I would just bring the baby in to the basement because that's where my room is. I'm the least controlling person, but I feel like having set rules/boundaries (especially with a newborn during flu season) is so important.
@Lianna yes exactly i don’t understand why people especially people with children of their own don’t get where we’re coming from?!? It’s crazy we just want to keep our babies healthy and safe
It only helps when you’re at the hospital, but the nurse who gave us a tour said that all the maternity nurses are happy to tell your family anything you want about what the visiting rules are. They said if we want them to tell family it’s only one visitor at a time or only certain hours, or nothing bc mom is too tired, they will do that. I imagine most nurses are like this
I'm definitely worried about my family not respecting my boundaries when my baby is here. I'm a single mom and I have several family members who struggle to respect boundaries and I'm not great at being stern. I'll express my boundaries lightly, but that doesn't always work. I'm especially worried about my mom and sister (mostly my sister). She's been trying to guilt trip me into telling her the name I chose for my baby. I told her I would be telling everyone after she is born, but she doesn't care. She also keeps talking about how excited she is and all of the things she is going to do with MY baby. Yes, I get that she's excited to be an aunt. There's nothing wrong with that. But if you can't respect the mom of your niece, then you definitely can't expect to get any special privileges.