When will it get easier?

So heartbreaking 😞 Please don’t feel trapped. There’s always something you can try to do if you’re really hating it❤️ I’ve not gone back yet so I’m not really the right person to be commenting at all but I’m gna keep telling myself that I need to be happy with it and I’m determined to explore every option possible. I’m sure it will get much better once you’re confident that he’s settled and okay but don’t settle if you feel you’ve given it long enough x

I went back in February. It was incredibly hard. It is still hard now but obviously I've got used to it and really try to make the most of my time with my little one

I’ve been back working 4 days a week for around 6 weeks now, I found weeks 3-4 the hardest because the novelty wore off and reality hit. I really really struggled if I’m honest and still am really. No one talks about the mum guilt ❤️ it feels slightly better now that I know he loves nursery and is so so cared for. Be kind to yourself and know that all the feels are normal. I don’t think enough recognition is given to returning mums and all the emotions that go with it. Connect with other mums, like you’re doing to know your not alone xx

@Sophie love this attitude, I’m already thinking of dropping my hours and feel lucky that I can even consider this ❤️ everyone tells me nursery is great for him (although kinda sick of hearing this 😂) which I know it is but we need to look after ourselves aswell xx

@Jasmine 100%! I’m fully ignoring the “he’ll be fine” comments.. it’s really not the point. It’s a once in a lifetime experience for us too! We need to be as happy as we can be that we won’t look back with regret. I also find comfort in reminding myself that I don’t remember being 1 or 2 years old whatsoever. I’m sure it made a huge impact on my mental health and personality etc but in terms of actual day to day - I could not tell you what I was doing or who I was with! Xx

You’re on day 3 so be kind to yourself! At day 3 I felt guilty and wanted to quit work but I’m nearly 2months back now and it’s getting easier. I think what I personally have enjoyed is seeing how much she loves nursery and her growth. Socially it’s benefitted her. Plus our bond is still strong, I get the biggest cuddles and smiles after and we have time before/after nursery together. It’s hard and tiring but try to enjoy the little windows where u get a few minutes for you - I now really enjoy eating my lunch in peace 🤣