proposal not feeling special

Depends what your expectations were

If you were expecting and communicated that you wanted something more special then it's completely normal to feel that way. I must say, I kinda felt that way a bit with mine but now that I've been married for 18 months, I don't really think about my proposal, it happened and it was intimate but the end goal was marriage :)

@Fatima I think this too, that once we are married the wedding is what i’ll think about not the proposal. But I see other people posting this beautiful proposals with so much thought and effort put in and it makes me a little jealous? or disappointed? I never expected some huge elaborate proposal but it just didn’t feel that special and doesn’t seem like it’s even happened, we don’t talk about it and it wasn’t really celebrated!

I felt this way too. I knew it was coming, knew he was going to get the ring, but there was no romance or anything special about it happening. He just came home and passed me the ring box. He's not the romance type so I wasn't expecting a big show, but even just getting down on one knee and asking would have been nice, even if he did already know what the answer was going to be

I mean, my husband wrote it in my Christmas card, which was sweet, but he didn't have a ring when he did it, which annoyed me.

Well quick story about our engagement. We was on holiday I had really bad cold. But managed to do things. In the background my fiance kept trying to ask me to marry him. To no avail. Came home. He'd gave up trying and in the bedroom said I'm not getting down on 1 knee for this. Me not understanding what he said (adhd) said why do you need to get on 1 knee. He just shook his head 🤣 and said will you marry me. Of course I said yes. To me that is special as it was done our way. 😊.

i feel this way. i feel so bad for feeling like that but i can’t help but feel really disappointed in the proposal i had. 😞

I think proposals are often something we hype up so much in our heads, and due to tv and media we think it’ll be this big amazing perfect moment. Life isn’t always like that. And that snapshot you see of others won’t include the little things that didn’t go right. As others said it depends what you communicated you wanted to your partner, and if they took that on board. With ours, he got his son (my stepson) to ask me if I’d marry his dad. Very sweet, although I often tease him that he never actually asked me, he bottled it and got SS to do it 😅

Plan something for the two of you and make it as special as possible. I have friends who’ve done a staged proposal after

I'm not someone who puts too much emphasis on these things, as the best, most romantic proposal in the world doesn't mean you will have the happiest marriage, and that is the most important thing for sure! My OH proposed to me in our garden (on one knee) and that was fine for me. I'm not convinced we'll get married as we're going through a rocky patch, which is making me question our future. But it's ok, I've come to accept that marriage might not be on the cards for me (I'm almost 40) but thats OK.

I was flustered as hell during mine, hubby had decided it had to be at sunset, stood up literally as our food came and said let's go on a walk (i was breastfeeding and constantly starving!). 6 month old at the time kicked off that we were leaving so we had to take him in the buggy and he whinged the entire time so I almost missed the actual proposal 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣 some random woman filmed it but must have not been able to find our socials so we've never seen it 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣 we look back on it fondly, it was very much our life at that time! If you feel it hasn't been celebrated then organise a big celebration and have your moment 🥰

Was the proposal something you had “pushed” on them? So was it something you’ve been asking for constantly and this was them finally fulfilling it?