Birthday drama

I’m stuck rn! I don’t want to do anything huge for little one’s birthday, just something fun with our little family. I would maybe plan a party but my husband s family lives too far and would want to include them if I did something like that. My family on the other hand is counting on being invited over for something even though I haven’t invited them or said we are having any sort of party. I’m ok with them wanting to be there and celebrate, but probably not on the actual day. Idk what to do help! 😅