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Right cause even if I give the baby my last name I can always change the kids last name like 5 years in
All my kids are in my last name no matter what, said if I ever get married I won't be changing my name either so il always have my kids name .. its not even up for questioning I've always been honest with the guys I've been with they've had an issue but that's on them it's my choice I registered them
I’ve been wanting my kids to have my last name since I was little. It’s something I stood my ground with, and now my daughter has my last name. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I look at it like this, I went through 20 hours of active labour to birth this tiny human, whereas he had 20 seconds of joy, so she gets my last name.
Everyone I've dated and seen a few red flags with and stayed anyway because somethings were great no huge issues.. the red flags grew over time or became a bigger deal and it always felt like omg why did I ignore that. But I think what is most important to you can always change over time. Also people show you glimpses of who they really are over time and everyone puts their best on for a time at the start. When anything goes wrong is another good test for seeing how someone truly is... I think times have changed and it's very acceptable to be careful about last names now. You should do what you feel most comfortable with no matter what. If you think with or without the guy you want the baby to bear his last name I'd say why not. But if there's any reason not to then don't. It is very hard to change it unless both parents agree. So it's a big choice in my opinion and you gotta trust your gut.
Side note if it's an emotionally mature man then explaining yourself kindly should get his approval or at.least his understanding. You can always say I get where your coming from but this is how I feel about it and I want my kids to keep the same last name unless something happens I'm the future. If he acts like a big meany about it tbh that's just another red flag🤷♀️
Thank you ladies !!!💕
I 100% say stick with your guns and keep the child's last name to your name just like you've done with your previous children (my children have my surname and this baby will be having mine aswell). You've seen some red flags with him, that's a sign, do what you feels most comfortable and don't be pushed into another decision that you're not happy with 🤍
My eldest has her dad’s name, my 2nd has my last name and my twins have a hyphenated surname of mine and their dad’s surname. Personally if I could go back I would of gave my daughter my last name too, as my older 2 are just under 2 yrs apart and they went to school together and when 1 got called up for a certificate or something, my daughter’s friends would ask why her brother has a different surname, I’m guessing if my son was a girl too it would bother him also, but he said it never has and his mates never asked. My twins are almost 8 & 10yrs age gap btw the older ones, so they won’t have this problem.
My kids have both last names. It ultimately came up to if I felt like their dad earned it or not. For my first, their dad had not proved to me that he would be a good and dependable dad. Then for our second, he had proved that he was a good and dependable dad but I didn’t want the boys to have two different last names despite having the same dad. Their dad understood and we had agreed that we would change it if we ended up getting married. But long story short, he walked out not even 8 weeks after I second was born so good thing I went with what I felt was right at the time.
If your other kids have your last name the next one should have yours as well I think imo just makes more sense that they all have the same name to avoid confusion between them
I think it depends on whether you are attached to your name, would prefer double barrell name or just do not want baby to have his name. I'd just be open that you are both in a new relationship and you hope it works out so your concerns are not about him, but for now your not 100% on naming the baby his last name, that may change in the future.