Potty training not going anywhere.

Hello mamas , I didn’t think I’d have to make this post but here I am. I am struggling with potty training with my daughter. Like it’s day 9 and it’s not going anywhere. ( my son was so much easier to potty train ). She will turn 3 in October but her brothers school have offered her a place before her 3rd birthday so she will join in sept part time to begin with. I know that the school requires all kids ( nursery ; my two kids ) to be potty trained when they start. But my daughter just won’t do it. She’s not worn a nappy in 9 days ( during the day ) and she just pees and poops as if she’s wearing nappy. She doesn’t say she needs the toilet and she doesn’t sit on it by herself either. I feel like such a f*** up right now.

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It took 3 separate attempts for my son to finally be ready. I wasn't on a deadline though so I just went with it. Sounds like maybe a timer to go every 30 minutes and some books, snacks, etc to entertain while sitting on the potty might help. If you have a small potty for her keep it in the living room/play room/wherever you hang out. If being naked isn't working you could try putting jeans or shorts on her so maybe it will be uncomfortable when she does go

@Liv I’ve tried all that. She isn’t bothered by wet clothes when she pees herself. There’s potties all over the house for her to use and there’s the big potty her brother uses. We tried naked , we tried underwear only we tried dress with no underwear we tried full clothing god knows how many roads we took. But I am this close to giving up and giving her a nappy and trying again over the Christmas holidays since she and her brother will be home from school.

Have you tried following her around with the potty and when she starts going put her on it. If you catch some wee lots of praise.

@Becky I’ve tried but I’m also 32 weeks pregnant. Can’t be running around as much

With my step son we took a few days off together, his Dad and I and every 30 minutes we would put him on the potty regardless but would leave it 10 minutes if he was overly distressed about it. We didn't ask either, he's been wearing pants a year and if we ask him half the time he'll still say no when he does need to go. We'd just be really positive and happy and just say "time for potty" And he was sooo ready before hand, would tell us consistently then we put him in pants and did what your daughter is doing now. Would just stand there and wee as if he was wearing them and that was after weeks of telling us he needed to go. When he did anything on the potty, even if it was tiny we would make an absolute huge positive deal out of it. Like big congratulations and go tell the other parent "guess what?!?! 🎊🎊 He's so clever!!!!" . He got there in about a fortnight after that. Still lots of accidents but the every 30 minutes helped to limit them and get him into going

By the sounds of it she is just not ready. Have you tried setting an alarm and taking her to the toilet every half hour or so? And skipping the potty altogether? I work in a setting which used to have a preschool and the policy was the same. It’s hard on the staff but they may be able to work with you, if you send her in wearing pants and then following the same routine you’ve done at home ie, toilet every half hour x

I used a potty watch and plenty of books starting out with my daughter. She came with me when I had to go and I let her go commando during the day (as you’ve said). Even when she wouldn’t go I’d sit her on the potty to get used to but only for like 3-4 minutes. Consistency is key! She’ll be 2 in October and we’re now focusing on training outside our home in public places.

Google and YouTube the method ‘oh crap potty training’. Read forums for tips. This is what I did 🙂

I don’t think kids really get it fully until like 3 1/2 years old I hear from a lot of mom friends. And usually boys don’t get it fully down until almost 4? It will happen of course, too bad there’s a time frame. just don’t stress it and try every day until October and maybe it will happen by then?

Honestly she isn’t ready. I would give it a break for a few weeks and try again. When they are ready it tends to click within a few days in my experience. Nothing you have done wrong just different kids are ready at different times x

I would put her back in nappies for a bit and then when you’re ready to try again, really make a big deal out of it. Have lots of potty talks beforehand leading up to it, see if you can get an idea of her routine/toilet cues. Take her out and get her to choose some new knickers. Then the day before you start, make a big deal about all her nappies going (we had the nappy fairy come and take them all 😂). Then have a reward chart with stickers - this worked well for us as she loves stickers. Good luck ☘️

@Nikki-Lee if the fairy took the nappies what about bedtime ? 🤣

We went straight to no nappies at bed time 🧚🏼‍♀️ But understand that doesn’t work for everyone, maybe the fairy can leave some special night time only ones 😂

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