Money Privileges

Not kid related. TW Money, ‘wealthy’ . . . . This might come across as bizzare. I feel like I’m in a position where I don’t need to worry about money. I have money spare and have savings. Not for anything in particular just in general. The bills are all paid, there’s food there. The kids are fed, clothed, have toys etc. The ‘issue’ is I NEED new clothes. Nothing fits me. It’s either too big or too small. I don’t feel happy in myself; I don’t feel pretty, I don’t feel girly. I need my hair done and a full new wardrobe but I can’t bring myself to buy anything nice. If I see something I can’t bring myself to buy it. I LOVE love love a bargain so I’m also either getting a sale or vinted but then I convince myself other wise not too if the postage is higher than the item. I could get an adidas jumper Inc postage for like £5/6 which isn’t that expensive considering it’s like 5x more expensive in the shop. I would rather help a mum, family on vinted that a big company but I always seem to convince myself otherwise. Any advice ?

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Just go and do shopping, do your hair, you living only once

Shop in real life trying things on so you know what fits nice/looks gd/is your size then look for the same items second hand. Get your hair cut by student hairdressers so you feel good about helping someone out at the same time. Donate money to charity

@Emily i dont have time to shop really and i get bored that’s why i try more online in my own time and i do click and collect so usually i would collect it, try on there and then return if anything but its effort. I done lots to charity and sell a lot too and shop at the charity shops. I do try buy and shop local and small business. I plan on doing that for Xmas and birthdays this year being from charity and vinted but when it comes to myself I can never just treat myself without feeling guilty x

To me, this isnt a money thing, this is an issue with you showing up for yourself and giving yourself the things you deserve. Treat yourself to a spa day get your hair done make it a regular occurrence maybe even try going into the gym, once you feel better about yourself, you’ll have an idea about what kind of clothes etc make you comfortable and happy. Therapy is an also a shout… invest in yourself and hopefully things will start to fall into place for you x

I’m exactly the same, I mean I don’t have spare cash really but all my money goes on my kids. Why don’t you withdraw some cash, say £200 and go out for the day and aim to have it spent before you come home. It has to be spent on you, you’ve earned the money and everyone else has everything they need! Time to treat yourself you deserve it!

@Josie yes my kids always have what they need and more, clothes, toys, food, days out, soft plays. I just couldn’t spend £200 on myself. I did buy a £1.50 jumper on vinted 🙈🤣🤣🤣 it’s awful because I know I could but can’t bring myself too as I’m so used to hunting a bargain x

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