Potty train rant
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@Amy yes lovely. Been doing that for ages. Then was told to go straight to underpants. 🤦♀️
Freddie is the same. And the preschools around us don’t want untrained toddlers 🙃
When you say he’s been doing it for ages not wearing pants, is he reliably trained then? Like taking himself to the potty, independently, no accidents etc. is it only when you put the pants on that he starts having accidents? How have you been leaving the house if he’s been pantless etc? We did no pants until he’d properly cracked that, then trousers with no pants, then pants and trousers. We didn’t go back to nappies inbetween stages or anything like that.
@Bethany it's sad isn't it. They just say it's lazy parenting when it really isn't. We are keeping Oliver in his nursery who also specialise in send children. They are supportive and understanding. Pre schools should be understanding more They are still very little especially our July babies xx
@Chloe yeah I guess he isn't fully trained as still accidents and little set backs although would go to potty, just not always making it. He had started telling us when he was having a wee or poo, but stopped. Just got told to try the underpants. Hasn't worked though 🤣 although sat on potty , just hadn't removed them. I had briefly left room twice Oliver is just easily distracted. Keep getting told it will click. When🤣 Guess I'm just bit overwhelmed as husband is on 5 nights so I should really have him out house but St same time we need to work hard at this. Xxx
To be honest I stop and started a few times with mine because she just wasn’t ready and you can try all the tips and tricks but sometimes they simply aren’t fully there yet, even if they do show a few signs. It’s tough and pressurising! Sending you a hug!
@Louise thank you 😘
@Ruth It’s so hard, it’s definitely a balance between wanting to wait until they’re ready and being like “okay, we just need to do this!” I would probably start back from the beginning if you can, to give him a firm foundation to work from. No pants and as much time at home in a row as you can manage, and properly crack it underwear free. That phase shouldn’t be going on for ages, and if it’s been interrupted by then having nappies back on for nursery or going out, it’s likely just confused things a bit. Then when that stage is properly done and they’re fairly consistent, it makes it easier to add on more clothes. If they’re not secure and then have the additional step of the pants to be pulled down etc, it’s a whole other step and sensation, which can be too much to think about if you’re still not consistent with the first bit. I think they’re all easily distracted, and being on the toilet isn’t as fun as playing etc so their motivation isn’t always there!
My nephew wasn’t potty trained until he was over 3. They are all just different, and some get it faster than others, some do well with a gradual approach but others need an intensive approach etc! I found it stressful even though my son did take to it quickly. If the nursery are supportive too that’s helpful. He will crack it!
@Chloe yeah I think you're right. I get 8 days off between shifts but they are always interrupted. So it probably is confusing for him. Xx
How about setting a timer for every 15 mins, and just sitting him on the potty- even if he says he doesn’t need to go? This worked for my daughter who is awaiting an asd diagnosis, by 4th day she was taking herself to the potty. We are 2 weeks in now and we still have the odd accident when she’s distracted but she’s doing great. I Hope this helps, and try not to stress too much- you could come back to it in a few weeks as honestly my daughter wasn’t ready the week before I tried again. This has been the hardest part of parenting so far 😅 xx
@Chelsea great tips thank you. He is listening mostly when I keep reminding him to go to potty. And has gone himself without asking. But then there will be setbacks. Xx
Have you tried boxers? There hard to get by but you can get them on amazon. I found they were more comfortable for my son. And also didn't give the feel of the nappy. Plus coz his dad wears them he felt more grown up wearing the same style as his daddy x
@Suzie oooh something to think about. Thank you. You see my other post from today? Epic fail on my part hahaha. He did so good really. Just doesn't realise you shouldn't play with 💩🤣
Have you tried no pants? As in for the first few days don’t put underpants on until he’s consistent with using the potty! It’s a hard slog but you got this mama!