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Help please!
So I’ve been a single parent for 9 and a half years, long story short dad cheated while I was pregnant 🚩I ran quickly 🤣I’ve always reached out throughout the years because my kid would ask about him and so he’s seen my kiddo maybe twice. Welp dad decided to get the courts involved (although I never denied him seeing him 🤷🏾♀️(but whatevs it is what it is). Dad will not reach out to me or kiddo (has both of our numbers) only contacts my mom. my kiddo has went to his house twice(first time just a few hours, second time overnight) weeelp that ended quickly and when I ask my son why he doesn’t want to go he says “he’s not feeling the vibe” which eh understandable! 😭😂backstory: my kiddo (on my end) is an only child, first grandchild, first great grandchild, first niece or nephew, first great niece or nephew…you get where I’m going! so he’s pretty much a big deal over this way, however, dad has 3 older kids that live with him, another younger child that visits plus the live in gf children(not certain how many) so I can see if it’s overwhelming…I don’t want dad or the courts to think that I’m forcing him to stay home (because baby please go because mommy wants me time) but at the same time I don’t want my kiddo uncomfortable 🤷🏾♀️so if you’ve been through this, going through this or never been through it but have a suggestion please help!
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@Phylicia J do you hear me!? as soon as he said nope I don’t wanna be there…weeelp 🤷🏾♀️it sucks because overall I want him to have a relationship with his dad however I feel like he’s over it already lol he just wanted to see what it was about. and yeeeah somewhere someway somehow with someone I’ll always be the bad guy 😂I’ve accepted it
lol he was just trying to scoop the scenery… but that’s okay… he is the child and his dad is the adult and has to create a space where he is comfortable not the other way around.
yes ma’am and I’ve tried to explain to dad maybe you should get him and just y’all ✌🏾go to a park or out to eat but … that’s too much like right, went in one 👂🏾and out the other 🤷🏾♀️ #WeCameWeSawWeOverIt
So tricky! I think once they get to an age where they can say they don’t want to be somewhere I wouldn’t force them to go. My kids only got to tell me once they don’t want be somewhere 😂 … also dad should grow a pair & have a conversation with his son and maybe even you try to understand why he doesn’t want to be there so there can be some type of resolution or compromise.. ultimately Its just overall a tricky situation and of course will make you seem like the bad guy in the end.