Am i overreacting?

My daughter attends a daycare who when we enrolled, was very certain that they could potty train her in their potty training classroom where “everyone was potty trained within weeks”. I asked her teacher what we start with pull ups or underwear. She told me straight up underwear, like it would be no problem at all. I even told her this is new territory & she would likely have accidents. Her teacher said that’s ok bring extra clothes. Well going on week 2-3, @daycare my daughter was still having accidents consistently and would only go on the potty once or twice during the day. They upload photos for parents to view throughout the day, and one photo they uploaded my daughter was outside in 60 degree weather with a HUGE wet spot on the front of her pants just as clear as day, running around on the playground.. i brought it up to the director just asking what was going on and why this would be uploaded and her not taken care of seeing she pottyed herself. The following day after bringing that to her attention, the director told me that they don’t think she’s ready for underwear, she should go back in diapers and essentially it’s just a lot in the daycare setting right now. But they will still work with her consistently. I’m glad they told me because i was getting frustrated feeling like she was being neglected. But it’s just like, i asked what i should start with and that was their idea of underwear. And they said they would sit her on the potty every 30 minutes, if that truly were the case i don’t think she would be having as many accident as she is. At home she’s perfect on the potty and goes when she needs to. We rarely have accidents. I’m just really frustrated and feel like her daycare could have done better. But i want other opinions.

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My personal opinion I had to deal with a daycare like that that should pay attention to stuff like that and for me it got worst. I potty trained with my daughter at home and when she was at school it was a different story. I understand they have the schedule but if they suppose to help then that’s what they should be doing. Her daycare has had her in wet clothes or even worst after she had an accident they would have her naked basically just in a pull up, socks, and undershirt. Your daycare should most def do better with bathroom and communication. It should not have to wait to you speak on it for them to say that. It sounds like they be lazy to me

@Shey see i think it’s laziness too. I think it’s just simply the fact that they don’t want to and can’t handle it. Because when we started they told me there was another little girl who is sitting on the potty every 20 minutes as well. They completely glorified this class being the best fit to get her trained when we enrolled her. It’s 2-3 weeks in and i just feel like they gave up. Typically they upload when they have tried. And i noticed they stopped doing it often. Which i understand they get busy but i don’t believe they’re actually being consistent, from what I’ve observed. It’s just frustrating. I’m glad someone else agrees. Do you take her to a different daycare now?

They shouldn't offer a potty training class if they can't attend to every child every 30 minutes.

Yes I took her into a new dayscare which I learn that some daycares are just babysitters and some are real teachers. I found one that actually cares about the kids and potty training and in a week of being there plus the work at home she was fully potty trained. Be careful with choosing daycares cus lots of them just show what they want to but you can see all the difference and if it’s good in our kids

In my opinion, they set her up for failure,if she's having so many accidents, she may not be ready yet especially if they aren't asking her or listening/ looking for her ques. I never pressed it and I never brought underwear in until they expressed they were ready my girls potty trained over night doing it that way

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