Husband no effort on birthday.
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@Kayleigh he is great in all other ways. But he always puts little effort on holidays and birthdays. It's definitely been mentioned before.
As you said it’s been mentioned before, have you tried not bothering for his birthday and see how he likes it? My husband is incredibly busy, out of the house 13 hours a day for work, very hands on with housework and our toddler but he usually makes an effort. We had one Mother’s Day where it was really clear he hadn’t given it any thought, I had my say and the following Mother’s Day was much better! If he can’t step it up a bit then I’d just say right, if you’re not going to make an effort, neither am I 🤷🏻♀️
Even if moneys an issue, I feel that time and thought has more value than a gift- a lie in, breakfast in bed, a day out somewhere nice planned, or cooking your favourite meal and have a film night together on the couch would be just as meaningful to me! I’m so sorry you were made to feel this way!
Sounds like giving gifts is not his love language
@Miranda 😄 no idea what his love language is. I think just words of affirmation.
It could be a fun thing to do for the two of you to learn eachothers love languages and read up about them. It can be an activity to do together so you can learn more about eachother. That really helped us!
I feel like I've wrote this.Ever since I've given birth his attention is diminishing...I chose not to be bothered by it, but not put effort into his birthdays
@Miranda, I tried discussing this with him in the past 😄, and he looked at me gone out ! Like, I was just following some tik tok trends.... basically because I said I'd like more cuddles and kisses 😄! Maybe I'm just needy and high maintenance. Decided tonight , I'm going to run myself a bath and make him watch our 8 month old when he's back from work....
I personally would just not bother on his birthday! X
He got me some flowers on the way home. But to be honest, he's only got them because I was annoyed this morning. It's just as an after thought. I'm not making any effort on his birthday this year.
Wow just wow! He was too busy?! Your birthday is the same date every year!! He should have planned ahead!! You deserve to be treated like a queen! That doesn’t mean expensive gives but thoughtful ones and made to feel special. I would be having words and if it doesn’t go well, do the same on his birthday. I sincerely hope he is making you feel appreciated in other ways!