Presents

I have family aboard and when ever they visit us or we visit them i never expect to get gifts or to take gifts. There may be the odd thing that you know they might like that they cant get where they live so we take it. At the end of the day you’re the gift and they want to see you and meet the baby im sure they wont be expecting you to turn up with loads of gifts especially as you have a baby xx

@Jemma Yeah, but the thing is I've been getting hints by everyone. My sister even straight out asked for an ice cream machine, and I had to explain that I don't have the money (it's like 500$)

I feel so much pressure

That seems extremely generous, all I bring with me is chocolate and candy. Now there is a shop at home that carries all the British chocolates so I try to find ones they definitely won’t be able to source from very British brands. I probably spend £100 (a lot less than you’re going to!) Because you mention phones I’m assuming you might be going somewhere that doesn’t easily have access to western goods? Im just going Uk to canada so it’s not that different culturally / economically so my opinion might not be in line with what you’d expect but $500 of gift cards seems so generous to me! You have a new baby and those are expensive

That is so much! I wouldn't expect more than, like, a toy or clothes for my baby if we were visiting. YOU'RE going THERE. You're already spending money to go. It's incredibly generous to bring gifts but shouldn't your presence be enough?

I’m from Africa, I’m not sure where you are going but I’m assuming there are similar expectations. It’s never going to be enough. Don’t stretch yourself too thin, gift what you can. You are already sacrificing time and resources to go see them. They should be able to understand. If you do too much this visit, you are creating expectations, they will want even more next time. I’m not saying don’t bring gifts, just don’t spend too much trying to impress everyone.

Ummmm y do u have to bring a gift at all? When my family visits we do not expect gifts. When I visit them, I do not bring gifts. Gifts are for birthdays & holidays (kids only. No adults get gifts)

@Rachel it is expected I guess. ..I didn't see them for a long time.It wasn't always like that in my culture.When I was a kid people were a lot more modest.You would bring candy and coffee and call it a day. I definitely see how this would set an expectation for the future,but then again at least they would stop asking for stuff. Hopefully...I don't expect anything either I am nor even staying in anyone's home.