My mother is a financial burden

Posting anonymously as people I know are on here My mum is becoming a financial burden. I'm on UC, with one child so I have to obviously budget. When I lived with her, I gave her board which I didn't mind, but then again she'd always ask for more, use my card constantly to go to the shop etc. I've been moved out for years now and she's still being a financial burden, she asks to lend money every time I get paid which she gives me back, but then through the month she'll ask for more, tenners and 20s here and there constantly, she at least asks me once per week for money. Her family refuse to help her anymore as she was also asking them constantly, so I'm the only one who helps her financially now, but it's stressing me out I feel like she is an extra bill, as much as I love my mum it's becoming too much on my shoulders. I'm currently waiting to be paid this week, so I have little money until the end of this week (I have food and essentials in) she's asked me 5 times the past few days and I've explained to her every time I have no money, she's even asked me if my partner will lend her money, which Ive explained to her he can't as he's had to pay bills and is now in overdraft. My partner has told me to cut ties with her, which I don't feel I can do, but she genuinely is becoming a burden. She can work but uses her mental health as a way of not working. Any advice on what I can do with this situation would be appreciated. TIA

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I think you need to stop giving her money. You can stay in contact but just explain you don't have it to give. If she then cuts you off then you know she was only using you.

I had this with some of my family members. You just have to straight up say no and that you don’t want to do it anymore. If they feel like they don’t want to talk to you because of it then that shows what a shitty person they are 🤷‍♀️ but if you keep lending them money they will keep asking

Think about it this way... she's taking money off away from you and your family (you, partner and child) stop giving her that and be selfish.. your family deserves it not your mother she has her own way if she wants to throw money about however that's on her but it's not your problem

My mother would be too ashamed to ask her children for money, there’s just no way. Mental health or not, she’d find a way to make her own. Plus, is this her retirement plan? To mooch off you forever? You can’t continue to support her like this. You should be focused on supporting your own kids, that’s how it works. I think you just need to lay down the law: sorry mum, but the bank is closed.

I would say no each and every time. Don't give a reason, just say no and hopefully she'll stop asking.

Just tell her you can’t afford it as cost of living etc . I don’t think you should cut her off but just put boundaries in place

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