Should I trust my child’s father to be on the birth certificate?

If you don’t wanna you don’t have to! I didn’t she didn’t even get his last name because I know I did it all by myself

@Jayleen that’s part of the whole reason I don’t wanna add him on because when I told him I was pregnant last year he told me “go tell the man that got you pregnant that’s not my child” so I went through the whole pregnancy alone which was a high risk pregnancy I had full placenta previa and a hemorrhage during labour. Nobody was there to help me when baby was born I couldn’t even take care of the baby properly after I got to the recovery room because I was in so much pain and unable to move and very sleepy. I called him to tell the baby is born after no contact for 9 months. We did dna. Now he’s the dad and wants more rights to the child but I don’t trust him

Well he can always be added later on. Right now don’t let him because I had the same thing with her dad saying he’s going to be apart of her life and he sees her every couple of months and doesn’t change his ways. See progress and maybe later on you can take it into consideration

I do everything alone for this baby and he’s here on and off for the last 6 months. Trying to get his life together and have money he said. The baby has a medical condition that he takes medications 5 times a day. I have to be up 5:30am every day to give his 6am meds. Then 12pm meds, 2pm, 6pm and lastly 10pm. I’m so exhausted I’m so tired mentally and emotionally sometimes I just sit there and cry because the baby is never content he’s always crying and wants to be held. I tell the dad my struggles and he laughs at my mental breakdown

I feel if I add him on then I’m just setting myself up for trouble. But idk my friends are starting to sound convincing I’m even second guessing myself

Get yourself a carrier it helps trust me and you can still do whatever you want ml. Don’t let his words get to you. Especially if he’s judging the struggle he isn’t ready

Don’t add him he doesn’t deserve In your hard time he wasn’t there for you when you needed him

How old is the child?

@kals 6 months old

I wouldn’t rush to make any decision. The baby hasn’t even been out longer than in. Somethings correction most things need time. If he’s consistent then you know what to do…

Make a pros and cons list in the meantime.

@kals thank you that means a lot

Don’t add him I wish I hadn’t. I shouldn’t have even told him I was pregnant 😒

I understand you have reservations, but also, I feel like you don't want to because you have a lot of resentment. I get it, but long term, if he's making a conscious effort to be involved then you should put your own feelings aside and think about what it will be like for your child to have no father named on their certificate. I understand you doing it means he has parental rights, but he could also have it done via the courts, and you are powerless to say no. So is it worth all the stress?