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Bf red flag?
So my bf who doesn't live with us or have kids. Is going away with his family on a trip to his mom's bfs cottage. He's all excited to have a relaxing weekend, and he's been talking about it all excited. Which good for him I'm glad he gets to have a good weekend.
However, I messaged him all upset, because the weekend has been full of unexpected sadness for me, and my boys. We lost our dog of 15 years.
I texted him "this week really sucks, so many unexpected sadness, it's hard to handle"
He than says "same here I can't have a relaxing weekend cause now my mom's bf invited his son and his sons kids".
First of all, I didn't know that someone's else's kids can ruin your relaxing time. I feel like that's how he feels about my kids. And him being so mad at it to compare that to my situation shocked me a little. I'm not one to make a deal out of little things.
I would love someone's thoughts
You don't really get a relaxing weekend with children. If you do it's different as you still have to entertain and look after them so you relax in a different way. I'd be upset too if my family dog passed away. You could do something nice with your boys whilst he's away. If I was going away & someone was bringing their children. Unless they were very very well behaved children I can understand how it can be irritating especially when you don't have children. Though I wouldn't have compared it to losing a pet. It probably is how he feels about your children. It's a lot to take on. A whole change in routine & environment. Every decision we make we think about our children first. Someone without children does have to do all that. It can be draining putting people before yourself and yourself last all the time. I don't think he means any harm otherwise he wouldn't be with you. It's probably been a bit of a shock to him and he was grateful to have some him time so he can be fresh for you all when he gets back. đź«‚